NO birthday party for my 5 year old, ok?!

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  • Crystallynn
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 10:22 AM

• i agree!  we do a party every other year, and my kids like it.  and still it is nothing big.  this year, my daughter only invited 2 people.... 

     

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  • atlmom2
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 10:25 AM

• Kids do not need a party every year.  I remember having one B'day party when I was smaller and that was it.  It was mostly cousins and a few neighbors.  It was special because I didn't have one every year.  I had a couple when I was older and then when I was 21.  Most of my B'days were cake with my Mom, Dad and brother. 

  I had some small parties with just a couple friends for my girls.  We moved a lot so it depended on when we moved and who the girls had as friends. 

  After age 10 my girls get 2 parties 13 and 16.  My youngest will be 16 this year.  Its our last large party for our girls. 

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  • honeyb3
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 10:25 AM

• I don't think you need to have a party every year.

  Every other year or so seems about right to me.

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  • mommybug77
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 10:29 AM

• We have a family party at home every year. My girls are 8, 10 & 2 12/ they don't miss not having other kids there. They love spending time with their family & I would never not do unless I had no choice. Why would your daughter have a crappy time if friends were not there?

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  • offrdngal
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 10:39 AM

• I've only planeed one b-day party for my son (he was turning 6) and only a couple of kids actually came.  I haven't planned one since.  I always make a cake and let them decide if they want to invite 1 or 2 friends over.  I let my sisters know and if they can make it, they will.  All 3 boys b-days are in the winter (Jan, Feb & Dec) so we can't do any park parties...obviously! LOL

  I think your daughter will enjoy what you've got planned for her day!!  It sounds like it will be fun for both of you. 

  Terri

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  • jabs54
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 10:42 AM

•  I didn't give my kids a birthday party every year.  The got one when they turned 5 and when they turned 16.  And, they appreciated them so much!  As our dd was growing up she was invited to friends parties every year and she would come home and tell me how the kid ripped through the presents and didn't act thankful at all.  I think kids get spoiled when given a big party every year. I think they get a sense of entitlement.  My oldest dd was complaining about how her friends kids are so unappreciative and she said " On my birthday when I was a kid, my grandma came up for birthday cake and I didn't have to make my bed that day and I thought that was special"

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  • acissejessica
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 10:54 AM

• when my daughter turned 1 and when she turned 3 I had big blowouts because of the family criticizing me, and my mom and my dad fought the whole time, and my husbands mom and her oldest son fought the whole time, and I got criticized for not doing it right (whatever that means) and there was noone to play with my daughter. She just sat there! I had things planned for the kids, but it required adult help, and theres only 1 me, and noone would help me, they would just criticize me. I shouldnt have to call someone and ask in advance if they can be in charge of the pinata, or something like that, i should beable to ask one of my 30 adult guests (who are all only invited becayuse they would get offended if i DIDNT invite them) to give me a hand. when she was 2 and last year I told kids in our neighborhood(s parents) that on wednesday kids were coming over for cake and a craft, no gifts. My daughter LOVED that! And even though I said no gifts they each brought something from the dollar store with a bow on it and that was enough for her, she was happy. and everyone had fun, including me and my husband and the other parents! I just dont see why a big party is necessary if she appears to enjoy what I did last year better anyway
  

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  We have a family party at home every year. My girls are 8, 10 & 2 12/ they don't miss not having other kids there. They love spending time with their family & I would never not do unless I had no choice. Why would your daughter have a crappy time if friends were not there?

  
  

  

  
  

  

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  • tyfry7496
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 11:01 AM

•  You are not having a birthday party for your 5 year old. I just think that is wrong. She is 5, who cares if it is only family? ALL children deserve a party, even if it is just family. My son didn't have a kids party until  he was in 3 or 4th grade. It is nice to have a party and celebrate with family too. Actually, TODAY is my son's birthday and we are having a FAMILY party to celebrate.

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  • acissejessica
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 11:04 AM

• all my daughters family here is adults. They all hate eachother. If she had cousins or something here then yea of corse,, even if it was like 1 cousin fine. But none. All adults. All her cousins that are fun and her age live in the nj/ny/pa area which is at least a 5 hour drive. Last time I went it took me 10 hours to get home because of traffic.
  

  Quoting tyfry7496:
  
  

   You are not having a birthday party for your 5 year old. I just think that is wrong. She is 5, who cares if it is only family? ALL children deserve a party, even if it is just family. My son didn't have a kids party until  he was in 3 or 4th grade. It is nice to have a party and celebrate with family too. Actually, TODAY is my son's birthday and we are having a FAMILY party to celebrate.

  
  

  

  
  

  

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  • MrsJohnson215
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 11:06 AM

• I think that is fine, the birthday is about the child and what he/she will enjoy.  My oldest daughter had a big party at 1, a few small cookouts throughout the years(her birthday is 8/7), and she will have a party next June but it is really about her graduation from elementary school and not about her birthday.  My twins had a big one at 2 and they are going to have one next spring for their 9th bday, my youngest dd had a big one at 1 and then at 5, and my youngest had his first birthday bash at the end of May.  You have so many more options when they have spring and summer birthdays.

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