NO birthday party for my 5 year old, ok?!

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  • mommybug77
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 11:10 AM

• My daughters ONLY have adult family members. They are always the only kids at our get togethers & they don't care. They love being around the people who love them. I think you are making a huge deal out of it only being adults, it is not a big deal. If they can't get along for a few hours then they can stay home simple as that.
  

  Quoting acissejessica:
  
  

  all my daughters family here is adults. They all hate eachother. If she had cousins or something here then yea of corse,, even if it was like 1 cousin fine. But none. All adults. All her cousins that are fun and her age live in the nj/ny/pa area which is at least a 5 hour drive. Last time I went it took me 10 hours to get home because of traffic.

  Quoting tyfry7496:
  
  

   You are not having a birthday party for your 5 year old. I just think that is wrong. She is 5, who cares if it is only family? ALL children deserve a party, even if it is just family. My son didn't have a kids party until  he was in 3 or 4th grade. It is nice to have a party and celebrate with family too. Actually, TODAY is my son's birthday and we are having a FAMILY party to celebrate.

   

  
  

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  • angelahamby7
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 11:11 AM

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  Quoting acissejessica:
  
  

  I think birthday parties are unnecessary. I mean, I would LOVE to give my daughter a room full of kids and presents at a place she wants to go, but thats just not possible. We just moved here, we don't know any kids, I'm NOT throwing a party for all her adult family to come and have her have a crappy time, her birthday is for HER, not my sister in law who gets offended if shes not invited to a 5 year olds roller skate birthday party. ANYWAY YES I do something for my family on their birthdays, something I know they will enjoy. But I DON'T think a party is necessary! So now that her birthday is a week away my family has started calling and nagging on me about why I'm not having a party, that Im selfish and cheap and I am TIRED of it!

  Every year I plan NO party, then I get crap, so I throw a party, spend tons of money and then get criticized for my choice of venue. This year I am sticking to my guns. NO PARTY. I am bringing her to a giant play place for the afternoon, then cake at home and a movie of her choice. I think she'll have a BLAST and thats all that really matters on a kids birthday.

  edit: just forgot to mention my daughter has apergers. interpret as you wish

  Well I love the way you think right now. We just moved to a new city, my daughter, who turns four in August, has no friends here as of yet, so I am thinking I am going to be a bad mom if I do not throw her a big party. We really do not have the money anyway, if she did have a party it would be mostly adults.
  

  

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  • ShannieP
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 11:18 AM

•  My DD is not yet 3. We had big "parties" for her first and second bday, but mostly because my entire family lives out of state. We always go to Missouri (where I am from and where my whole family lives) around her birthday and throw a big party. Its kind of like a family reunion. there are a lot of kids her age. So, we do the big present opening thing (And I take pictures of her with each gift giver, then send personalized thank you cards, including that picture ), we do cake, then we just hang out. The kids play, the adults talk, my grandpa usually grills. (yes, we do cake first!) So, anyway, the point is that it is a multi purpose party, and we plan to continue the tradition.

  This year though, no huge party trip to Missouri :( My second daughter will be born 2 weeks before that, so I wont be up for travelling. We are gonna have a small bbq and swimming at a local beach.

  

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  • fwkitten2008
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 11:19 AM

• I throw my kids a birthday party every year but we do not go anywhere. I always have them at home. I get decorations from a theme they choose. I invite mainly family and we just have fun eating cake, opening presents and just hanging out. Not all birthday parties have to be a big bash. My kids have ONLY had parties at home. We dont play games. We do usually have a pinata for the kids. They go outside and play (weather permitting) or just run through the house like mad men for a couple hours. I do firmly believe it is every parents CHOICE on what they want to do for their childs birthday. Do what is right for you and your family! Happy 4th!!
  

  

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  • kattincolorado
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 11:20 AM

• I agree with you. Tho even tho they do did have a party, every year..what I did when they were little, (they are grown now) is I would decorate the kitchen, streamers, and balloons, with their favorite colors, or theme of their favorite i.e. Ninja Tutrles, etc.  To this day, thats what my boys remember is how decorated the kitchen would be for their birthday.

  I stopped this at around age 10, but did 16th, and even 18th. But I know that they have that memory of their birthday. Easy, simple, and bought all at the $$$$ store! :)
  

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  • monique30285
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 11:20 AM

• I think that what you choose to do for your child's birthday is completely up to you. You worry about what your family thinks way too much. Who cares what they think! With my daughter we take her to Chuck E. Cheese every year and we don't invite anyone and she has a blast. We don't have to clean up after her or anyone else and we don't have the extra stress of a bunch of kids running around the house. I think that if your family criticizes you just to tell them, "You know what this is what my child wants to do. She has the most fun doing such and such." Then leave it at that.

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  • AutymsMommy
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 11:22 AM

• We do believe that birthday parties are, well, necessary lol.
  

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  Last year we had just moved to a new place and knew noone so we did the same as you are doing - we took Autym to a play place of her choice, bought her presents and then had a small dinner "party" (just her, my husband and myself) at her favorite restaurant. So nevermind your family and what they think - you would be crazy to throw a party in a new town where you know nobody.... and parties should be for the child's sake, not to please your extended family.
  

  I am a Private School sending, Vaccinating, Non spanking, Nightmare Cuddling, Dessert Giving, Homework Helping, Bedtime Kissing, Book Reading, Academic pushing Mum. I believe in the benefit of organized after school activities. I believe in spoiling my children. I believe that I have seen the village and I do not want it raising my child - I will do that, Thank You. I believe that a woman's place is in the home taking care of her house, children and husband. I am a proud, traditional Roman Catholic, as is my husband... Yes we are teaching our daughter that The Church is the only Church. I am very conservative and a proud Republican.              Aimee
  

  
  

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  • lyott07
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 11:22 AM

• You go mama! and congrats on stopping smoking!

   Lupe

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  • KalebsMommee
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 11:29 AM

• I understand not having any friends her age or small kids to invite and the people who give you grief for it just tell them to kiss your butt. She is YOUR daughter. At first when I read no party I was thinking "gee selfish parent" but after reading your post I think what you are doing is perfectly fine. It's HER day to enjoy, not anyone elses and any adult who gets mad or offended because they aren't invited to a  parent has issues.
  

  

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  • Domzmom2005
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 12:04 PM

• I don't think that she'll be missing out on anything since you're still doing your own thing to celebrate her birthday.

  I'm not planning on having a birthday party for my son this year because I am tired of planning the party around people's schedules, getting everything all set up, spending way too much money, and only having a few people show up. We're still going to do a small cake for him and do something special for his birthday, we're just not planning on having a party. If people want to buy him gifts they can stop over whenever and watch him open them then.
  

  

  
  

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