NO birthday party for my 5 year old, ok?!

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  • hannahsmommy321
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 12:07 PM

• we have a birthday party every year we are lucky if we spend 100 bucks including the cake we have it at a park or home and we invite imedeate family and friends i cant see not having a party that would crush me if i was a kid
  

  

  
  

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  • wissotamum
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 12:11 PM
• I don't understand. It sounds to me like you're having a party for her: taking her to a play place, a cake, a movie and a day with Mommy celebrating her special day. What about that doesn't spell awesome day? It's not about how many people, presents, or money spent. You'll be spending time with her and that's what kids crave the most - time with their parents. She won't be crushed, ruined, hurt or otherwise scarred from a lack of a big family or friend party. You're doing just fine, Momma!

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  • CARA2008
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 12:13 PM

• The last time we had a party my son was in first grade. We invitedd his intire class, got 10 RSVPs. We rented the big jumper had tons of food (besides the kids we had our family and we figured the kids from schools parents might want to hang around since they were so young) Anyway 2 kids showed up. I was MAD! And I swore we wouldnt do that EVER again. Yesterday was my 3 yr olds birthday. We went to see Ice Age and then went to The Fun Factory. Came home and had a little cake. I say NO PARTY!!!

   

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  • Princess_Paden
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 12:15 PM

• My kids are only 1 and 2, but they've had birthday parties every year so far. I'm already planning their birthday party for this year, and its not until November. My oldests first party was at my inlaws, and had about 10 guests, only 3 kids plus my daughter, the rest were DH's and my friends who were involved in our lives then. Last year's party was a joint birthday for their first and second birthdays, since they were both born in november (we had it mid-nov.), it was at my family's church and we had a few kids and more family and friends. I think there were about 15-20 people there. We made cheap food (cheese ball and crackers, chips and dip, sodas and juice and pb&j sandwhiches) and talked and let the kids play instead of doing games or having it at like chuckee cheese. This year I plan to do the same thing. I see what your saying, that expensive parties are not worth it and are overrated, thats why we have small family gatherings and just hang out and talk/play. There are cheap ways to celebrate birthdays, plus kids love parties.
  

  

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  • Mazie0723
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 12:18 PM

• All that matters is that your child feels special that day.. We moved to NC about 2 1/2 years ago and when we do parties it's us and a few of our friends and their kids so maybe 11 people including us and we do lunch and cake.. I have never done an all out party I can't afford to. Happy Birthday to your little one.

  

  
  

  

  
  

  

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  • momagain
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 12:35 PM

• I think it all depends on the family to have a party.  for instance, If there is family drama going on, I would probably avoid a party and instead opt to do something special for my child on their birthday.  For my son's last two birthday's, we had a small family gathering at a pizza place.  Just immediate family.  My son was happy and I was pleased not to have to clean up afterwards.  My family is good about pitching in on the food  and drinks so that helps a lot.  I agree that you don't need to have a big celebration for everybirthday, just make it a special day for your child.  Once in a while a birthday party is nice but only when it is possible.  Happy Birthday to your daughter! 

  Lisa C.  Ultimate Angel Fan.

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  • jdavis2
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 1:36 PM

• One day out of a year, is their day, why wouldn't a parent want to celebrate it and instill the fact that they are important? My children have had a party every year, my oldest will be five and you can bet your bottom dollar that she will have a party. Children don't become ungrateful because of the parties, they become ungrateful because of their parents and the values they are taught. I think that it is rude to think only of yourself on your daughter's day. Children at the party No children at the party it is still her birthday and she should be made to feel special on her day! 

  

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  • rickitikitavi
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 1:44 PM

• i just do a small gathering with close family and friends and do a home party.its nothing fancy.cake ,snack foods etc... we sit and chit chat.when kids get older and have more school friends i may still do a home party or something still.i think it would be fine to do a small gathering for her or what you had planned would work.
  

  

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  • acissejessica
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 1:57 PM

• I see 2 things here that I may actually do! 1: I may decorate the kitchen/living room (I didnt even think of this!) and I forgot about Chuck E Cheese! Ive told her the choices of where she wants to go and so far its between this place near by with a ball pit (thought they are not open on her birthday) and a climbing structure, to see a movie (which is actually a very regular occurence for me and my husband to take her to the movies, so it wouldnt be an extra special thing to her), a rollerskating place, bowling, and now I am adding chuck e cheese to the list. I mean, just going to chuck e cheese would be fun! I'll bet if I told her that was a choice she would pick chuck E cheese over anything else. that place is great for low cost indoor entertainment. The only problem with the place is shes afraid of the big mouse! HAHA, but otherwise she wouild LOVE that.

  

  
  

  

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  • acissejessica
  on Jul. 4, 2009 at 2:01 PM

• you must have missed the whole point of this post. It isn't to say I am NOT doing something special for HER, it is to say I AM doing something special for her, it just doesn't happen to be a party. She knows it's her big day and that we love her. I actually asked her a month ago if she would want a party for her birthday OR to do a fun activity of her choice. She said she wanted to go to the YMCA (which is actually not really the Y, thats just what she calls it) that day. I said are you SURE you don't want a party and SHE said there are NO KIDS there so it would be NO FUN.

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  One day out of a year, is their day, why wouldn't a parent want to celebrate it and instill the fact that they are important? My children have had a party every year, my oldest will be five and you can bet your bottom dollar that she will have a party. Children don't become ungrateful because of the parties, they become ungrateful because of their parents and the values they are taught. I think that it is rude to think only of yourself on your daughter's day. Children at the party No children at the party it is still her birthday and she should be made to feel special on her day! 

  
  

  

  
  

  

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