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NO birthday party for my 5 year old, ok?!

acissejessica
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on Jul. 4, 2009 at 10:18 AM

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I think birthday parties are unnecessary. I mean, I would LOVE to give my daughter a room full of kids and presents at a place she wants to go, but thats just not possible. We just moved here, we don't know any kids, I'm NOT throwing a party for all her adult family to come and have her have a crappy time, her birthday is for HER, not my sister in law who gets offended if shes not invited to a 5 year olds roller skate birthday party. ANYWAY YES I do something for my family on their birthdays, something I know they will enjoy. But I DON'T think a party is necessary! So now that her birthday is a week away my family has started calling and nagging on me about why I'm not having a party, that Im selfish and cheap and I am TIRED of it!

Every year I plan NO party, then I get crap, so I throw a party, spend tons of money and then get criticized for my choice of venue. This year I am sticking to my guns. NO PARTY. I am bringing her to a giant play place for the afternoon, then cake at home and a movie of her choice. I think she'll have a BLAST and thats all that really matters on a kids birthday.

edit: just forgot to mention my daughter has apergers. interpret as you wish

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acissejessica

on Jul. 4, 2009 at 10:18 AM

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- ToraMay
on Jul. 5, 2009 at 3:11 PM
I dont think it matters the age nor the disability... No one says you HAVE to throw a party for your kids every year... Sometimes family and them having fun is the best way to do it.

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- BrooklynnMama
on Jul. 5, 2009 at 7:54 PM
Parties arent necessary .....I only had one "party" growing up and it was just my family there...didnt feel like a party at all howver I would not have wanted a big party .

DD turned 4 and all I did was send Mrs Fields cookie cup cakes to her class , backyardigans premade goodybags and a couple boxes of HI -C...I didnt even go to her classroom party because they said kid's bday parties are only a half hour long and it didnt make sense for me and ds to do all of that traveling for a half hour session. However dd went to school last week and came home with a HUGE birthday party goodybag ...It made me feel like crap . The bag was huge and so extravagant . The things inside were not typical party present ..more like christmas presents lol

I did take dd to Chuck E cheese though and she loved it . I got her a couple ballooons told her it's her birthday (she's autistic) and she felt sooooo special everything i got her she would say "it's for me?!?!?" lol