I NEED YOUR OPINION!(LONG)

seriously - why would you want your kids around that man!!!!   You totally need to go get custody!

My husbands ass would be under the jail. I told him. If you ever end up in jail, I am the last person to call because i wont get your sorry ass out.
Leave!!!

If you've found a man that loves your kids as his own and he's a much better daddy than the real guy, keep him...and loose the loser!  It might be hard at first, but is really the kind of man you want your kids learning from?

Quoting mamivon2:ass would be under the jail. I told him. If you ever end up in jail, I am the last person to call because i wont get your sorry ass out.
Leave!!!

im not even with him i havent been with him for almost a year now........

Quoting bsmeisie:

seriously - why would you want your kids around that man!!!!   You totally need to go get custody!

i dont want my kids around him.......he hardly ever sees them anyways and the only thing is i dont know if the courts will take his rights away and everyone wants me to get the courts to remove his rights.......should i try to get his rights taken away?

Quoting mackabelly:

If you've found a man that loves your kids as his own and he's a much better daddy than the real guy, keep him...and loose the loser!  It might be hard at first, but is really the kind of man you want your kids learning from?

thanx for your advice...............me and the dad are over and have been for almost a year me and the new guy just got engaged and just got a house he is way better but do u think the courts will take away the real fathers rights so the my fiance can adopt them?

I would take him to court, how could you even trust him to watch his kid??  What would happen if he did something stupid and his kid was in the car??Besides that as the child gets older, what kind of role model would he be?? And obviously having a kid didn't make him straighten up his act, after awhile he would just start letting down your kid, it would only hurt the kid in the long run. You seem to have a wonderful man that knows how to take care of what's his and he wants your child. That's a real man, you should take advantage of the situation while he's in jail, it would just help proof your story and help you get sole custody. Good luck with that hon. Besides if you don't do it, you might loose Garrett, he might wonder why you continue to put yourself and your kid through that kind of misery.

GET RID OF HIM!!!!

I am in Law Enforcement and let me tell you, It is never the criminals fault, they were set up, blah, blah, blah. It is HIS fault. He committed the crime! Please get his rights taken away and have your bf adopt them.

If you do not have any custody papers then he doesn't have an visitation rights, but are the kids in preschool where he could pick them up.  First, I would contact DSS or CPS, whatever it's called where you live.  State your concerns and how you feel the children are an endangered while you are there.  After investigating and testing him for drugs they will probably order you to keep the children away from him.  I did this w/ court papers and even though what DSS/CPS doesn't over rule what a court order states... if I let my BD see that child I would be endangering her... does that make sense.  So have it already determined by them that he is unfit now.  Go ahead and take him to court... it needs to be settled in papers now not later.  While SO may want to adopt... I'd hold the boat on that one.  Even though it is endearing be careful there.  Framed or not... his life is a mess and I'd protect my kids from that.  Good luck.

Quoting psychmama:

GET RID OF HIM!!!!

I am in Law Enforcement and let me tell you, It is never the criminals fault, they were set up, blah, blah, blah. It is HIS fault. He committed the crime! Please get his rights taken away and have your bf adopt them.

I have delt with a multitude of criminals in my past. And there is no TRUER statement than what psychmama said here. Everyone of them was set up. It was, someone else's fault. Cut your sperm donor out of the picture as soon as possible. He already has headway into making the lives of your children unstable, just like he seems to be. Good luck!