Just curious...does anyone else get pushback from your kids about redecorating?
My SD(11) dislikes change. At first DH and I thought it was because her Mother left DH and the kids when SD was 5. About a year later, the kids Mom came back and took about half of the household furniture, lamps, wall decor and other belongings. When I came into the picture the interior of the house was sparsely furnished and in desperate need of a fresh coat of paint. DH isn't much of a decorator so he didn't change much of the decor after his ex took her stuff. When I moved in about a year later, I brought some of my furniture into the house and DH and I agreed some new things needed to be purchased(ie a dining room set, kitchen table, area rugs, etc). I cleared everything thru DH (after all it was 'his' house until we got married). Rooms were painted to match the new furnishings and every time we made a change SD would get angry and give us both serious attitude about any changes. We tried to go slowly and make the changes/updates gradually so it wouldn't be as difficult but that didn't work. Eventually she told us that it isn't so much that she hates changes, but she wants to be included in the decision making. We were about 3/4 of the way through our powder room renovation and I had put several paint chips on the bathroom wall to help with the decision making (they were all in the grayish blue family) SD came back to us and told us she hated all of the colors I put up. DH made the mistake of asking her what color she liked and she said lime green. DH told her that he appreciated her input but there were reasons we picked those shades of blue grey so they would compliment the hallway color and because we wanted to give the space a spa like feel (not that an 11 year old cares anything about decorating practices). Anyway, DH told her that since this project was already started we would just be finishing it the way we had planned, but next time she would be consulted earlier on. I was pissed. SD doesnt even like picking out her own clothes. If we have to get her input on decorating decisions We'll never get anything done. Do any of you have to clear your decorating ideas through your kids? I don't think this is a blended family issue but I'd just like to know if non blended families have to deal with push back from their kids about decorating decisions. Thanks!