hazards of the job

[beaugrl0824]

Ok so I am currently going through a divorce. I was married 1 year and 8 months. I've heard over and over again its a hazard of the job. And if you aren't in ems you don't understand what the heck your spouse is going through. Stbx is a volly and never has been involved in a paid service. He didn't get the strange family I've accumulated nor did he get the intense friendship I developed with some of my partners. He hated the overnights and he hated I worked weekends. All in all he just didn't get it so I moved out. Not just because of the job but a whole host of other reasons including verbal and emotional abuse. I just couldn't take it. So a few months after moving out I started dating a former partner. He is my best friend but he has been in this business for 20 years. He is unhappy with my partners now since company policy states we cannot work on the same shift together. He says he trusts me but doesn't trust the boys. Being a women in ems is hard enough I shouldn't have to worry about who my partners are and if my bf is going to flip shit over it. It's come down to we fight every shift.

If you and your so/DH work on ems together how do you find common ground???? And do you believe divorce and affairs are just a fact of life in ems???

[tpaangel8122]

i can see how they can be common, I mean, you work w/ the same person each shift for 12 hours or so, you are gonna develop a relationship. you are gonna learn how that person is, what they like, what they don't like, and i can cause problems in a marriage or feelings between you. My husband was my partner for the longest, we weren't married then, but they let us work together. When he left he wasn't ever worried about my partners or getting called in or working overnight. Guess he just trusted me. I'm a dispatcher now, came in here after I got pregnant, but we're still together and he still trusts i'm ok. Though my other dispatcher is almost 60 lol. Good luck hun. I'm sorry you are going through this. I hope your bf eases up on you. Its not your fault. But maybe cause he used to be your partner and he sees that you two developed feelings, he thinks it could happen again.

[beaugrl0824]

He does worry about that a lot...we worked together 48 hours a week for 3 months and that was the longest and most I've been with one partner. Before and now its random people that sign up for the shifts no one consistent. I mostly hide in the bunk room at work and don't really socialize with the other crews. It just sucks that company policy is written like that. I can see not on the same truck but at least put us on the same freaking day.