I am new to this website. Here is my story in a nutshell:
I am 31 years old and never wanted children of my own. With that being said, I married a man with three great kids ages 12, 10, and 9, two girls and the boy is the youngest. My husband has full custody of his children with their biological mother getting them on the weekends. In the last 3 years, I have become more used to the situation, but it was very difficult for me in the beginning. I actually hated it. I was not used to caring for anyone but myself for so long, that making 3 breakfasts, 3 lunches, doing homework, getting children ready for bed, after school activities, CCD, etc was hard for me to get used too, and quite frankly, I'm still not used to it all that much. They truly are wonderful children, great manners, very polite, and they adore me, which makes me feel bad sometimes when I look forward to the weekends. Since my husband and I have full custody, I have taken over the "mom" role from day one. Mt stepchildren call me mom and have called me mom from day one, which shows everyone just how much they longed for a "mom" role in their lives. It is sad if you think about it. I could never imagine my life without my mom in it, and here are three children longing for one. There biological mom abandoned them for their early years ages 1- 6, so they do not have that bond with her, instead, they have it with my husband. They express hatred towards their mom to us, and apparently hate going there on the weekends. I always tell them not to forget she is their mom and they should give her a try, but they still find reasons to hate being with her. There are many more issues regarding their biological mother, however I am not comfortable yet to post them all.
Basically, I joined this site to find others who are in the same boat as I am. My friends are married without children, so to talk to them about certain issues is like speaking another language sometimes, even though they try to understand. Is anyone is the same boat as I am?
I am 31 years old and never wanted children of my own. With that being said, I married a man with three great kids ages 12, 10, and 9, two girls and the boy is the youngest. My husband has full custody of his children with their biological mother getting them on the weekends. In the last 3 years, I have become more used to the situation, but it was very difficult for me in the beginning. I actually hated it. I was not used to caring for anyone but myself for so long, that making 3 breakfasts, 3 lunches, doing homework, getting children ready for bed, after school activities, CCD, etc was hard for me to get used too, and quite frankly, I'm still not used to it all that much. They truly are wonderful children, great manners, very polite, and they adore me, which makes me feel bad sometimes when I look forward to the weekends. Since my husband and I have full custody, I have taken over the "mom" role from day one. Mt stepchildren call me mom and have called me mom from day one, which shows everyone just how much they longed for a "mom" role in their lives. It is sad if you think about it. I could never imagine my life without my mom in it, and here are three children longing for one. There biological mom abandoned them for their early years ages 1- 6, so they do not have that bond with her, instead, they have it with my husband. They express hatred towards their mom to us, and apparently hate going there on the weekends. I always tell them not to forget she is their mom and they should give her a try, but they still find reasons to hate being with her. There are many more issues regarding their biological mother, however I am not comfortable yet to post them all.
Basically, I joined this site to find others who are in the same boat as I am. My friends are married without children, so to talk to them about certain issues is like speaking another language sometimes, even though they try to understand. Is anyone is the same boat as I am?
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on Jan. 28, 2008 at 2:05 PM
Principle,
Looks like you found the right place for sharing and talking the step mom lingo. I am 39 and married Mr Wonderful 10/07. He has the every-other weekend custody and the girls live 200+ miles away. I don't have the luxury of having the kids all of the time but I do look forward to the Sunday afternoon when they are returned. We get the girls usually in clothes that Goodwill would not accept and they do not have very good manners or hygiene. The mom hates my husband and looks to me as the one who broke them up(no such luck but she thinks it). I go out of my way to befriend the girls but usually ignored.
I started this group for all blended families to vent (blended is a very good word to describe us since we feel that our lives are mixed up constantly with our little angels). I like to talk to girlfriends about this as well but no one seems to get it unless they walk in our shoes. The ages of our kids are close( 7yr & 9yr his girls mine are 7 & 20) so let's chat when we need to deal with it or run out of the house screaming LOL.
Looks like you found the right place for sharing and talking the step mom lingo. I am 39 and married Mr Wonderful 10/07. He has the every-other weekend custody and the girls live 200+ miles away. I don't have the luxury of having the kids all of the time but I do look forward to the Sunday afternoon when they are returned. We get the girls usually in clothes that Goodwill would not accept and they do not have very good manners or hygiene. The mom hates my husband and looks to me as the one who broke them up(no such luck but she thinks it). I go out of my way to befriend the girls but usually ignored.
I started this group for all blended families to vent (blended is a very good word to describe us since we feel that our lives are mixed up constantly with our little angels). I like to talk to girlfriends about this as well but no one seems to get it unless they walk in our shoes. The ages of our kids are close( 7yr & 9yr his girls mine are 7 & 20) so let's chat when we need to deal with it or run out of the house screaming LOL.
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