Hey girls havent posted in awhile, things have been busy around here but today I got a phone call and I need to vent to people who know where I am coming from.
about 10 minutes before my son gets home the phone rings its his homeroom teacher and he says "is trent home yet?" and I said "well no not yet, is everything okay?" he then proceeds to tell me that he actually witnessed another boy attack my son in the hall after school, he tells me "I could not believe what i was seeing, I was amazed this kid did it right in front of myself other teachers and so many students"
Apparently a boy decided he just didnt like my son, several weeks ago this boy was pushing him in the lunch line and my son asked him to stop so the boy goes to a staff member tells them that my son cut in line and then the lady sends my son to the end of the line!
so today this boy comes up to my son says something about not liking him and tries to shove him, my son put his arms out to defend himself and i guess they wrestled for a bit until the boy slammed my son into a wall that had a metal piece and my son was hurt so he went to the ground (there is a lovely bruise as proof). My sons homeroom teacher saw the entire thing start to finish he got in there and grabbed the other boy, other students helped my son get up and pick up his things till other staff got there, the vice principal was onsite immediately. The nice thing is that we requested this specific homeroom teacher because he has a son with Aspergers and understands what the needs are and is more likely to follow the IEP, he told me that he wanted to make sure i knew what had happened (he knows not all aspies will come home and tell you) he also wanted me to know that he was proud of my son for standing up to the kid and that the boy will be suspended.
Here is what the teacher and i both were amazed at, the teacher told the boy you need to come with me, the boy said no i have to catch the bus, the teacher said no your going to the office and you will get home another way. This boy actually thought he could just walk away! just go on home no punishment nothing! SERIOUSLY? IS THIS HOW KIDS THINK THESE DAYS?
My son is doing great and was laughing about it tonight when we talked to him again about it. I am proud of him, his homeroom teacher tells me that he will get right back in kids faces when they verbally taunt him. We have had several instances this year already, which i knew would happen its the first year of middle school, but what i am amazed about is how well he is handling things and that he is talking to staff right away. I think he has finally learned that you have to speak up or nothing changes.
The major miracle of this entire situation is I didnt realize he had forgotten to take his meds 4 different days this week so technically it is out of his system and he was still able to use his coping skills! I let him know not taking his meds was not okay and he didnt do it on purpose he has been running late this week it has been nuts and i havent been checking behind him like i normally do, but part of me is glad he missed days because now i know that the therapy and skills we are teaching him is working and he knows how to use them properly.
I keep holding out hope that the bully's will leave him alone but i know that wont happen, right now i am taking comfort in the fact that he has made friends and that other students like him enough that they were there to help him. To me it shows how far he has come I just hope that each time he can walk away and still find the positive side when he has to deal with kids like this.
I am so glad that the homeroom teacher was there to witness this. What punishment did they hand out to the bully? If the bully just gets a slap on the wrist then this young man might think it is okay to bully some more. If the school handles it the right way by calling the parents into school and major detention or punishment then the problem will be solved. I would call the school principal to make sure that this student gets the punishment he deserves. I am so happy your son handled this well.
I was told at the very least he is getting a in-school suspension. I am supposed to get an update monday since this all happened after school friday. If it was just a slap on the wrist then you better believe that DH and I will be in that office faster than they can blink lol. School staff are very used to seeing my husband and I and know we dont play around and expect action. I am one of those moms who has no problem letting the school know they need to do a better job lol.
Quoting 3_ring_circus_:
I was told at the very least he is getting a in-school suspension. I am supposed to get an update monday since this all happened after school friday. If it was just a slap on the wrist then you better believe that DH and I will be in that office faster than they can blink lol. School staff are very used to seeing my husband and I and know we dont play around and expect action. I am one of those moms who has no problem letting the school know they need to do a better job lol.
You sound just like us, but sometimes this can backfire on you. Last year we hired an advocate when we thought his school was doing a poor job. His school dug their heels into the ground even more. This year the school is so much better dealing with my son's issues or maybe my son has just become a lot more mature.
First school dance :)
- 3_ring_circus_
on Nov. 14, 2009 at 3:08 AM