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Custody?? A mommas rights?

Posted by on Jun. 20, 2007 at 3:36 AM
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Hello My name is Marley I'm a single mother of a beautiful 18mo old daughter named Lilly I live in So Utah I work and go to school     and Im on assistance
Ive tried to google mothers rights and ALL I get a fathers right
SOOO here is my situation
ON 3/21/05 I became preg with my little girl at six weeks preg I found out
Ive loved my daughter from the begining even though I was very scared
her father would tell me things like "you did it on perpose"and"its not mine" "I just want to live for myself"and"you have ruined any chance for me to ever have a ligitamate child" 
So He shipped me offf to another state    you know out of sight out of mind
He never called and asked about how I was doing or even bother to show up for her birth or answer the phone while I was in labor for that matter
He takes no responsablity for himself and says that it is all my fault and he had a good reason to not answer the phone that day    completely guitless
5 mo after she was born he finally got the paternity test after me calling him once a WEEK to remind him to ( the courts said I could not set it up that it was his responsability )   she was 6 mo old when he came to see her for the 1st time and he sleept most of the time
then he didnt start pay child support untill AUG she was born in DEC
5 1/2 went by before he came to see her again and its only because I told him he should ( I wish I didnt ) in total he has seen her 4 times
the last time was easter 
He wants to take her to CO for how ever long 2 weeks a month how ever long
and doesnt see what my prob is with that because when he is here I will go to work and leave her with he doesnt understand that there is a differnce between me being 5 mins away and me being 9 hours away I told him NO  and I think it made him mad enough for him to try to take her from me
what should I do! I cant find any site about Utah mothers rights    Im very scared
She doesnt even know him I cant send my BABY 9 hours away with a complete stranger : /
help me please
by on Jun. 20, 2007 at 3:36 AM
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by on Jun. 20, 2007 at 11:53 PM

1st off, she's adorable!!!!!!!! 2nd , there's no way in hell, I would let him take off out of state with her! She doesn't even barely know him if he's only seen her 4 times....

by on Jun. 21, 2007 at 1:23 AM
Thank you and yes she saw him for like 2 weeks 3 months ago    she wont remember him it would be like me letting soem random dude take her out of state
by on Jun. 24, 2007 at 1:09 PM
You can tell him, if he wants to see her so bad that you would recommend going to mediation and setting up an arrangement for set visits. I would never let my child go to another state with a man like that, especially at her age. He could disappear with her and you'd never know where to find them. It seems like he has a hidden agenda.
by Member on Jun. 29, 2007 at 10:51 PM
i would not let him leave state with her and since you were nor married when she was born he would have to go to court to get vistion rights set up and you could stipulate that he can not take her out of state. That is how it worked in AR for my child born out of wedlock.
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