Hey guys i just need to know one thing...... does the bible in anyway state that oral sex is sinful. Please share your thoughts and opinions with me because I am so confused about the whole matter.
What is done in the marriage bed is between you and your husband.
Notice that I said marriage bed.Done in love,with love between the person you made covenant with before the Lord.
This is what I know. It also was a question asked at bible study one day and this is the answer the Pastor gave.
I feel that it must be true because it was a question I always wanted to know and it was on my mind the day the question was asked,so I feel,and I quote I feel like it was a confirmation.
Everything that has to do with sexual sin in the bible is always outside the marriage bed.
I know some people think that it is.The point is we shouldn't share whats done in the marriage bed anyway sooo it shouldn't make your brother stumble even if the feel it's a sin because they shouldn't know.
I feel totally confortable with my answer.
funny story when I first got saved I wouldn't let my hubby do it either b/c all I knew was what I had heard from older people.Now I'm the older people LOL ,but I feel I know the answer now.
Ok my bag there is one thing that shouldn't be in the marriage bed and thats porn,because it's sin,your bringing someone else into the bedroom. When looking at porn your seeing other fornicate,even if it was a married couple on the tape you would be bringing another in the bed b/c the lust would be on those on the film even though some men or women would say no I'm not thinking about that person on the film.
Thats not true, it's like masturbating. Which is another touchy question. If you were single and you did this,the only way it wouldn't be sin is if you could do it without lusting for someones flesh.
Which is kinda hard to it's best not to do it least you catch yourself in sin. Now doing it while in the bed with your husband as part of your love making no sin. Think if on of you got into a bad accident and these two are the only thing you could give your spouse. You can't move anything and he uses you ,your image to masturbates then no sin as long as you consent.
Ok you or he still can't move nothing but your mouth if you both consent to the oral sex,it's in the marriage bed.
I know I went a little bit farther then maybe you might want to know but when you ask that question the rest will come along. Once again toys as long as it's between you and your love it's all good once more only YOU and HIM. PARTY.
I know some sister might feel I'm wrong but trust me I'm telling you
the truth
YSIC CHARLIE
Great answer Charlie! Here is a funny piece of useless information, in the Bible Belt of North Carolina many many years ago, as in before our time it was put into LAW, punishable to the full extent of the LAW to things oral sex and living in sin, these laws to this day though obviously not enforced any longer are still on thed books, just a funny tid bit. Shows how extreme some states took things. In Jesus day sexual immorality (outside the marriage bed as Charlie said) was punishable sometimes even death by stoning. amazing facts. I myself often wondered about oral sex, but Charlie is correct (well the Pastor is anyway) perfect scriptuere back up too. I do know that I believe thats me now so dont anyone ge tall huffy but I believe anal sex is a sin and not how God intended, I call that a defiled marriage bed. Always remember worship GOd mind Body and soul, it doesnt say except when having sex or making love, it is meant to worship Him always and in all things marital sex is very important and WAS created by GOD as all things were created BY HIM FOR HIM! I BELIEVE THIS TO INCLUDE THE MARRIAGE BED. In the marriage bed, (which this is why sex outside of marriage is so damagin to us and our spiritual life) we become one with our Husband, ONE, if you have unbroken soul ties (spiritual ties from those we have had sexual relations before marriage) it will cause a defiled marriage bed because you are now not one with your husband but as many as you have been with as well as him. This is why I teach as many as I can about breaking swoul tied and praying about it each and every time one is brought to mind. you can google soul ties there are some great websites that teach on it and even have instructions for prayer fpor breaking soul ties. People wonder why they have so many marriage struggles this is the number one cause next to being unequally yoked!
Just my two cents..lol
blessings
thank you so much for clearing that up. my hubby and I do have oral sex but I always wondered are we sinning. Thanks
Interesting subject. Charlie, I like how you mentioned porn. I always felt this was wrong and disgusting but my husband feels differently.
@ Dina I just felt it was neccesary to say that the men I was with prior to my marriage and prior to turning to Jesus, I do not in anyway still feel I am "one" with the other guys. I was never one with them. My husband is the only one I have ever had a connection with, I do not think about the other men when I'm with my husband.
WARNING: Please do not get offended in any way, I am just very passionate about vertain things which are all part of my ministry which include
homosexuality
pornography
and mental illness'
all of which I have been delivered from Praise be to God!
So when I talk about these things my Holy Spirit gets all fired up, I believe all things are about accountability and you can only be accountable for the knowledge you possess, so I strive to teach knowledge on these things. There are true stories of men and some women that have gone out and committed rape which to them they were simply living out there fantasies whcih pornography feeds on. The Human Body is the Temple Of The Living God! I do not profess to be perfect none of us can be if we were God would have no reason for Jesus! Together we learn the best way to reach and teach what God has taught us through our own life experiances.
Darlene you can be sure that if you had sexual relations you have a SOULTIE! I promise you its not something you can feel or see its spiritual. Take a look at this web page and read on it you may realize there is some cleansing to be done, when I did it the Lord showed me faces of people that I couldn't even remember their names its amazing.
And as for pornography it is a dangerous thing and a tool satan uses to keep us in bondage to the flesh. It has spirits attached to it as well, would you invite a witch into your home? Assuming the answer is no why would you allow pornography, I know its a touchy subject but I have had experience with pornographic addiction, and its no different then cocaine to our flesh, it releases endorphins and all types of things.
How I knew when I was addictedd to porn~
I would need to have it on the tv during sex every time all the time
I would search for things on the internet when alone and then feel guilty about what I saw
I found I could no longer just make love I had to have fantasies rolling in my head about the pornography I had or would like to see.
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blessings
you can only pray my friend just pray, you cant but God can!
blessings
I will be praying for your husband as well sister,we can change no one but we have a awesome God and he can change him. You know it could be that your husband is addicted to porn all ready may be why even though it bothers you and you have told him that he won't get rid of it.
Also have you talked to him about how you feel?Is it something that he will listen to you if you talked to him in a lets sit down and talk about this seriously.
Sometimes our hubbies don't think that we are serious about something because we don't argue about it or we don't sit them down and talk about it.
I know that men can be hot headed and I think the biggest question here that we as sisters should be asking is,Is your husband saved,because none of what we are saying except for praying will be any good.
If your husband isn't saved then he is of the world and being of the world of course he don't find anything wrong with porn.
So let us know if he's not saved then we will pray that he comes to the Lord and put him on the prayer request post in the forum At The Feet Of Jesus and we will pray for his salvation ok.
If he is saved then we can pray for his addiction to porn will be broken ok sis. I love you and so I don't want you to feel attacted for sharing because that is what we are here to o is to pray for each other and be good sisters to each other,never ,never to offend or make a person feel alone or hurt of any kind. I know none of our sister want to make you feel that way,but we are all human and we will sometimes feel like I shouldn't had said this or that,but you id right by speaking up because we can't pray for what we don't know about ,right.
Love you sis.
YSIC Charlie
I've talked to him about it before but he doesn't seem bothered by it. I don't know if I'd say he's addicted to it. He rarely watches it. And as far as being saved, I honestly don't know. He says he believes in God, but mentions nothing of Jesus. I kind of feel that he isn't saved. He'll talk a lot about if he had Sundays off he would go to church, but once in a while when he gets a Sunday off he deicdes he doesn't want to go.
Thank you for sharing I say we just pray for his salvation,being saved is not believeing there is a God its having a realtionship with the Lord the devil an fallen angle believe in the Lord,they know it's a God they just don't have a relationship with him. and we will pray that the Lord moves in his life ok. Love ya YSIC Charlie.
Quoting add_chase:
I've talked to him about it before but he doesn't seem bothered by it. I don't know if I'd say he's addicted to it. He rarely watches it. And as far as being saved, I honestly don't know. He says he believes in God, but mentions nothing of Jesus. I kind of feel that he isn't saved. He'll talk a lot about if he had Sundays off he would go to church, but once in a while when he gets a Sunday off he deicdes he doesn't want to go.
Womens Lineage of Christ
- 3timesamommy
on Jan. 24, 2010 at 9:30 PM