We've had the worst time with this kid that lives up the hill from us. He rides the bus with my son. My son originally told me the kid was in the 4th grade. I told him not to play with the kid but they sit in the same seat on the bus. Almost every day my son was coming home with stuff, gummy worms, even a dollar bill. I later found out that the kid is in the first grade like my son. This is not so bad. The other day my son came home with a picture that this kid had drawn for me. I look at the picture and it has my son standing on one side and me on the other and in the middle was a grave, my boyfriend's body, and his name written on the "tombstone". I turned it over and there was the kid and my kid on a hill smiling. I was so mad I made my son throw the picture away. Now I wish I would have kept it and shown it to his parents. I was quizing my son on the issue and he says the little boy lives with his mom, grandma, and big sister. I'm not sure if he just did it because he doesn't have a dad or what. I've had about all I can take of this little kid. One day he told my son he couldn't ride the bus anymore. I told me son this kid is not the bus driver and he was getting back on the bus. Should I go to his parents or what? What would you do??
The gummy worms seems no big to me, the dollar I'd be asking why my child had it and their giving it back odds are. The picture though, crosses a whole other line and you should contact the school themselves! I wouldn't even contact the parent, since you said no father was involved you learned by talking to your son. Sounds like this child needs some help, someone to talk to and wow a 1st grader drawing this. Isn't a "oh that's normal", it's a "why would he draw this??".
Sadly you can't separate your child, from this child no matter how much you may want to. They go to the same school, ride the same bus and without some proof they can't do much this child is a danger of sort. Good luck momma, and sounds like this a child you want yours away from.
My 6 year old came home from school Wedsday, and showed me what she was shown at school or bus. The middle finger! I know could be worse, but still dang and it was from a little boy of all people. I can only hope things stay small like this, and not worse oy vey! My mom has a back yard neighbor, that is a little boy that gives me the jebbers. I keep a close eye on my girls when their outside, and near the fence to that little boy's yard. He likes to throw sticks, and he hit my 4 year almost hitting my 6 year old! I didn't catch the first hit, but the almost hit I shot out of my mom's back door. An that little boy ran like a bat out of hell, and was glad he knew I was watching. (unlike his parents, mother whoever). I have told them all, don't throw sticks since someone could get hurt and don't hit the shed close by the fence. We all know "that" kid sadly, some closer then others. :(
My son loves the Wimpy Kid books a lot, so we have all but one book. One of the books is the "Do It Yourself" book. He gets to fill out all these things about himself and I plan on stashing it away when he is done filing it out and then returning it when he is older so we can all get a good laugh. We were going through his book the other night and he was showing me all the new things he has written in there, and we flipped to a page where it is make your own comic strip. The pictures are already there, he just needed to write in words. We hadn't at this point had the "sex talk" with him as he is only 6 and doesn't need to know details. One of the boys in the comic strip was talking to his friend and the quote was "have you ever had sex", the second said "NO!" then the last quote bubble said "well you should try, it's fun". I freaked!! I didn't yell at him but asked him who wrote this because I know my son's handwriting and it wasn't his. He said this kid that comes to volleyball with his mom had wrote it. We play volleyball and I let my son come with since he's older. I erased it and told him that we don't talk like that and he told me he told the boy not to write it, that he would get in trouble. I wasn't mad at my son at all. He later asked us why we had lied to him about where babies come from. We have always told him that there is a secret baby door that only doctors, nurses and daddies can see when it's time for baby to come out, that it's at the base of a pregnant womans belly and when baby is ready the door shows up and the dr opens it and takes the baby out. That has worked for 3 years now!! This boy, told my son that no, moms have vaginas and dads have penis' and there is a hole in the vagina that is where the baby goes in and that is where it comes out. He drew a picture to show him...how does he even know what a vagina looks like, and why are parents letting him talk this way. I am distraught. How do I react to this?? I don't understand some peoples way of parenting and kids like this need help, more than what their parents are giving them?? What kind of home life do they have that makes them behave this way.
Quoting blakelinds:My son loves the Wimpy Kid books a lot, so we have all but one book. One of the books is the "Do It Yourself" book. He gets to fill out all these things about himself and I plan on stashing it away when he is done filing it out and then returning it when he is older so we can all get a good laugh. We were going through his book the other night and he was showing me all the new things he has written in there, and we flipped to a page where it is make your own comic strip. The pictures are already there, he just needed to write in words. We hadn't at this point had the "sex talk" with him as he is only 6 and doesn't need to know details. One of the boys in the comic strip was talking to his friend and the quote was "have you ever had sex", the second said "NO!" then the last quote bubble said "well you should try, it's fun". I freaked!! I didn't yell at him but asked him who wrote this because I know my son's handwriting and it wasn't his. He said this kid that comes to volleyball with his mom had wrote it. We play volleyball and I let my son come with since he's older. I erased it and told him that we don't talk like that and he told me he told the boy not to write it, that he would get in trouble. I wasn't mad at my son at all. He later asked us why we had lied to him about where babies come from. We have always told him that there is a secret baby door that only doctors, nurses and daddies can see when it's time for baby to come out, that it's at the base of a pregnant womans belly and when baby is ready the door shows up and the dr opens it and takes the baby out. That has worked for 3 years now!! This boy, told my son that no, moms have vaginas and dads have penis' and there is a hole in the vagina that is where the baby goes in and that is where it comes out. He drew a picture to show him...how does he even know what a vagina looks like, and why are parents letting him talk this way. I am distraught. How do I react to this?? I don't understand some peoples way of parenting and kids like this need help, more than what their parents are giving them?? What kind of home life do they have that makes them behave this way.
Weeeellll... I'm not judging (because I don't judge or think anyone is bad because they disagree with me) but my rule is NEVER to lie to my children. I can't even lie about Santa - I have to do some serious double-wording because I just can't LIE to them. So, at least about the whole 'sex' and the special door, the truth is always best - because now he thinks you lied to him and if he can't trust you to give him the right answers, he will try to find out on his own. I mean, I know he's only 6 right now but he won't always be.. and the last thing you want is for your son to think YOU'RE the liar and this other kid is the one that will tell him the truth.
And about the older kid, I'd talk to the kids parent and/or even the kid - depending on how old the kid is. Next time y'all are playing volleyball, take him aside and just say "I'd appreciate you not talking about sex about my child." Or tell his mother. A good "don't talk about sex to my kid" will suffice.
OHH. I just saw that thing about the vagina. HOW OLD is that kid?!? Depending on how old that kid is, I'd definitely talk to the parents.
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Omg..sometimes you try to train your child in the way that you want and when your child is outside, it seems as though other people are spoiling them and taking them away from the path that yu set up for them. Training a child in this world today is really very hard. I have 2 boys..I know how it is.
One day my son came home from school and in one of his books, there was the 'f' word written ,3 times by 3 different kids..one of them was my son. Now, we don't swear in our house and we don't watch shows with swearing in it.
My hubby and I were so mad, he went to school the next day to complain to the teacher about the child who influenced my son and the other boy to write that word.
The teacher said that little boy is so bad, he doesn't listen to anyone in the school, he does badly in his work, he's always dirty and has no training whatsoever and apparently his parents are the same way..so complaining to the parents was out of the question. Imagine the whole school will be praying and this little boy will just start to make "tarzan' sounds all of a sudden...LOL..The teacher said if they could throw him out of the school, they would do it, but of course they can't !
So, my hubby requested that my son be moved to another seat, far from the boy and my son has to be monitored by the teachers to ensure he has no dealings with this little boy.
I know my answer does help your situation or even advise you what to do, but you need to keep monitoring your child or else they will end up on the wrong path, so good luck to you.
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on Oct. 28, 2009 at 11:06 PM