I find it is getting harder and harder to pick punishments that make a difference in behavior. Time outs only work so much and the more he complains or makes noise or gets up or plays with stuff in the area, the longer he sits there and he is winding up sitting there for 30 minutes or more. Tried sending him to his room, but there is too much to do in there and he eventually wants to come down after about 2 hours because he is lonely. I took away electronics but can't have that on the day he is with his grandparents (in laws) because it is too hard on them to keep him entertained as they use the TV as a baby sitter and my son would sit there for hours!
What do you do as a punishment or deterrent to unwelcome behavior? Even the smallest thing might work for me. Looking for all kinds of input. Thanks!!
My daughter gets time outs and they seem to work well for her. My middle daughter who is 4 gets time outs, occasionally gets her butt popped, gets toys/electronics/etc taken away, rewarded for positive behavior, etc and NOTHING works! Every child is different and if you find something that works let me know so I can try it too lol
Time outs. Take away phone time, after school play time with friends, or swimming, while others are enjoying it. I've heard that some people have good results with taking everything away. It is hard work on the parents and consistency is key. Everything means all things in the bedroom except a mattress to sleep on. Slowly good behavior earns back toys, books, etc. Also a good idea to make a chart and reward good behavior with stickers. When so many stickers have been received an agreed upon "prize" is awarded. Some small some large. Such as a trip to the park, a special treat, Chuckie Cheeses, etc. Bad behavior can be addressed by tasks such as essays on why the behavior is unacceptable.
I enlisted an allowance incentive...she starts off with $5 at the end of the week she could have 5 if shes been good or she may have less. She also has to help out around the house and do things wout being told ie brushing hair .teeth. getting ready for bed. IU also take away tv or computer time.
A couple things I have done with my older son and some with my daughter are make them do extra chores if they get in trouble, I have made my son write sentences, grounded from friends house and other fun things, must sit in room and can notplay only is allowed o read books. I do time out some mainly with my youngest all thought I do occasionally have to threaten to send the older two to time out, rarely do though
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- mt623
on Jul. 26, 2011 at 6:54 PM