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Hi.

I lost 2 boys....both miscarriges.... alot of people dont understand why I greive for my lost babys on there birthdays, or why it bothers me so much. But I was raised that a babys life starts at the moment of conception. And I feel like alot was taken away when I lost my sons.

Quoting sonshine:

Hi.

I lost 2 boys....both miscarriges.... alot of people dont understand why I greive for my lost babys on there birthdays, or why it bothers me so much. But I was raised that a babys life starts at the moment of conception. And I feel like alot was taken away when I lost my sons.

I'm so sorry for your loss and I agree---a baby's life begins with conception.  When someone loses a child no matter how, it makes them see how precious life is.  I can say I do understand how you feel.  I lost my first pregnancy to a miscarriage and though never found out whether boy or girl, I still grieve.  Join us here.......though I wish there was no reason for you to.

Thank you for understanding...it is rare....

Sonshine, I understand. I was 38 when I found out I was pregnant. I had tried to get pregnant for over 9 years and at 10 weeks I miscarried. I felt horrible. There had been person inside of me. A life, a real little life and then as soon as it started it was over. I miscarried at home after the ER said I would. I was in shock through it all. I handled it quite well but the pain never went away.  We tried again after three months and on 12/26/03 our dd was born. I was so happy and am grateful for the miracle of my dd. I still think of my other child who would have been 4 this coming August every year he/she has been gone. I remember him/her on 1/9 of each year when he/she went away. My heart still misses my little Andi. I cannot say you will get over it because I don't think you will. I will say that though the pain has lessened greatly I will never forget my child. I am not trying to be negative or upset you but sometimes some people just don't see it as a loss. They seem to think that if you don't have a living, breathing child at some point it is not a person. I think they are wrong. I think you need to grieve, remember and cherish your sons. I hope that I am not causing you any undue pain or grief in what I am saying, it isn't what I intend to do. I am simply trying to say I understand, mommy.  Yes, mommy. HUGS and prayers if you will accept them.

hi

i recently lost my child. april 4th. my first child and a girl at 32 weeks. :( im trying to get over my loss but its hard. im glad there is a group where i can talk about it or that hav e other mothe's that have b een thru what i have been thru.

Quoting foxyma:

hi

i recently lost my child. april 4th. my first child and a girl at 32 weeks. :( im trying to get over my loss but its hard. im glad there is a group where i can talk about it or that hav e other mothe's that have b een thru what i have been thru.

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.  I'm also sorry to say you probably won't ever "get over" your loss.  Don't let anyone ever tell you that you should.  What did you name your daughter?  We're here to help you when you need support
Kristen

Hi. My name is Diana. I lost my son Jason when he was 28yrs old. He found some of my pain pills, snorted some and died. I found him the next day. This happened Feb.28-2005. I'll never GET OVER it. I defy anyone to say that to me or to you. That makes me so mad! We are the ones who had that life inside us. We know that life. It's real. No matter when we lose that life it is too soon. Jason could have lived to be 128 and it still would have been too soon. There are certain days of the year that will,   well   just suck  for the rest of my life. I had a fear of death before Jason. Now I don't. I had a CA scare, we thought I was going to die. I wasn't scared. I told my daughter the worst thing in the world has already happened to me. So what's the worst thing that could happen to me, I'll get to see Jason before the rest of them do.  It wasn't cancer I had, so I wait. I Waite for life to hand me my final part to play. Until then I have a business called Jason's Closet. I knit things and give them away to the people that need them And I tell these people to lock up their meds so what happened to our family does not happen to theirs.

Quoting IL2Knit:

Hi. My name is Diana. I lost my son Jason when he was 28yrs old. He found some of my pain pills, snorted some and died. I found him the next day. This happened Feb.28-2005. I'll never GET OVER it. I defy anyone to say that to me or to you. That makes me so mad! We are the ones who had that life inside us. We know that life. It's real. No matter when we lose that life it is too soon. Jason could have lived to be 128 and it still would have been too soon. There are certain days of the year that will,   well   just suck  for the rest of my life. I had a fear of death before Jason. Now I don't. I had a CA scare, we thought I was going to die. I wasn't scared. I told my daughter the worst thing in the world has already happened to me. So what's the worst thing that could happen to me, I'll get to see Jason before the rest of them do.  It wasn't cancer I had, so I wait. I Waite for life to hand me my final part to play. Until then I have a business called Jason's Closet. I knit things and give them away to the people that need them And I tell these people to lock up their meds so what happened to our family does not happen to theirs.

I know what you mean.  Our children aren't suppose to go before us.  It's great you have Jason's Closet.  It's your way of keeping his spirit alive through others.  I love it.  We give a small Scholarship in my sons name for an aspiring art student.  It's all we got now. 
We never get over our losses.......we just learn to live with it--some days are good, some real bad.
kris

Mom's~
You will never get over it, you just get through it. And it is only day by day. CJ only passed away on October 13, 2005....so it was just a short while ago, but I work in a Pediatric Intensive Care Unit, and I understand what moms and dads go through, so I guess that I am here for a purpose. I guess that CJ was sent here to help me. Help me in some sort of unimmaginable way....I made it to my 37th week of pregnancy, then had a placental abruption. Unfortunately, my husband and I had to make the decision to remove him from life support because of the brain damage following the lack of oxygen and blood supply. We are both at peace with our decision knowing we will be with our angel again some day...he was with us a total of 17 days here on earth, and is looking down on us from Heaven. You too should feel proud that you have such angels with you on your shoulders looking after you and your families...they are very special.

~Shanna

I agree with that I realized how hard it was that my sister and sister in law lost their babies before they were born no matter when you loose them it is pure heartache. My son was born on March 4th at 28 weeks and passes on April 10 I am thankful that I got to meet hime for a little while.