Grief when you lose a child.......
I got pregnant with my twins around August 2003. We found out we were having twins on
December 24th 2003. I went into premature labor on Jauary 12th 04. They stoped the labor but then discovered that all my bags of water was hanging in the cervic. I was dialated to a 3 and completely efaced. On January 15th 2004 Christian and Destiny were born at 22 weeks. I so miss them. I never thought I could hurt that much again. I was proved wrong. I am hurting that bad and more now. I got pregnant a month later and Sebastian was born 2 months early but did fine. And is such a wonderful challenging 3 year old. He will be 4 on November 18;
Keagan Yancy Fife was born on November 21, 2006. The pregnancy pretty
much went fine except for me going into labor off and on. But he was
born healthy and happy and came home 24 hours after birth.
When he was about 6 months old he stopped gaining weight and he had very
bad reflux. In August of 2007 he had a nasal feeding tube placed
because he started to lose weight. He was 9 months old at that time and
was only 11lbs 8oz. They found out that his liver enzymes were high and
so were his lactic acid levels. A geneticist did some tests and found
out that had 3-Methlglutaconic acid in his urine and diagnosed him with
a Metabolic genetic disorder.
September 2007 he went back to the hospital for a fundoplication and a
g-tube placement. During the surgery he mysteriously coded and they
brought him back. Afterwards they discovered that he needed a blood
transfusion. Other than that he was fine so we took him home. He then
started to see his geneticist and we found out in November that he had a
Mitochondrial defect. They were not able to tell us much about what
problems he would have, or if they would ever be able to isolate the
gene causing the problem. For a lot of what they were looking for there
is either no testing, or the testing is so expensive that medical
insurance does not cover it. We were warned that it could take several
months to investigate and we could wind up with no answers at the end.
On January 9th, 2008 Keagan was doing fine. He sounded like he might be
coming down with a cold, however he wasn't running a fever or acting too
different from normal. My husband came home and around 6:00pm he fed him
and put him down to go to sleep. He woke up around 8:00 and was having
problems breathing and his lips were blue. So I rushed him to the
hospital, where they discovered that is blood sugar was 700. This is odd
because in this type of disorder the blood sugar is usually low. They
put him on a respirator, and that was the last time I saw my baby awake.
His heart stopped when they were inserting the breathing tube. They were
able to resuscitate him, however from that point on everything started
to shut down and he passed away around 9:20 the next morning.
Through all of this Keagan was a happy baby. He loved sitting and
playing with his blocks with his older brother Sebastian. He was so
laid back and calm, he smiled and laughed constantly. We miss him so
much that words can not describe it. The pain of losing him is
unbearable. I know that he is in Heaven with his brother Christian and
sister Destiny-Li, but I wish he was here in our loving arms. I long to
hear his laughter and see his smile. He is missed by all that knew and
loved him.
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by JoanE. on Sep. 22, 2008 at 10:14 AMso sorry for your loss. I lost my daughter 2 years ago. a different way it does'nt matter how you loose them it still hurts terrible. She was only 25 . I misss her so much. you need talk. please write back. JoanE
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by vernut on Sep. 26, 2008 at 7:48 PMI misscarried in July of 2000 after only 8 weeks gestation and then lost my second child in a car accident on April 14, 2007 at the age of 10. If you need someone to talk to let me know. |
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