short version: Met my now husband at 19 he was 23. We dated for 8 months and after a paternity test we became parents. I say WE because BM has not been in the picture since DD was about 4 months old. We have been raising her together since then as our own. BM has no custodial or vistitation rights to DD. DD is three years old. We are looking to track BM down to have her waive her PR/or terminated. So then I can offically be DD mommy 9 on paper of course) The main reason is my DH is a NYC Firefighter and if god forbid something happened to him, I would not lose all rights to DD.
My question is and I hate to even ask it. But if something god forbid should happen what would really happen to DD?? Would the courts try and track BM down ???
Would a judge see that this baby only knows me as her mother?? Would she go automatically to her grandparents? Does anyone know??