hi all im new to this group i found this group bc i need some help with something my husband and have been married for 3 years before we got married we decided that we wanted to have 2 kids after we got married and that was it. well we had our son wyatt in may of 08 and im now pregnant with our daughter who is due in septmeber. I dont want anymore kids and asked hubby if he wouldnt mind getting a vasectomy for alittle while i kept getitng we will see. well last night he told me that he thought it would be ungodly if he did that then i told him well i will get my tubes tied then and he said no he said brandi you need to have 100 percent trust in God will know if we shouldnt have more kids or if we should i kept telling him that God wouldnt have had people invent birthcontrol if he didnt want people to use it i dont think he wants us to have kids and not be able to support them or have the money to feed them and he said thats where you have to trust God and that birthcontrol was invented after the baby boomers in the 50's to prevent people from getting pregnant so they could have sex with who every they want. and then he said that God wants you to reproduce and replinish the earth and that God s not goign to let that happen if he wants us to have more children we will will and god will provide a way for us to support them im so stressed bc in my heart i know hes right but i dont want anymore kids i want to go to work im working on my emt license right now my test is comming up and also i mean what does this mean no protection at all no condoms nothing everyone knows once you have a kid your more fertile right after tehre born i jsut dont know what to do right now and i also feel he would feel differnt if he had to carry them i love my son and the little girl coming into this world soon i just dont like being pregnant the stuff you have to go through its hard when you have a toddler running around while your puking lol i dont know what do yall think maybe yall can help me bc im at lost and dont know what to do i dont want to end up like the duggers lol im sure there a great family but i dont want 19 kids.
You'll just have to God in prayer. It's important for the two of you to agree on what to do in your family. You'll have to be seeking God's will for your life and your family. I know you want to go work but is that what He wants for you? I can understand why you would feel stressed about having more kids then you want or can afford but you have realize that the stress comes from lack of faith. Pray that He stregthens your faith in Him and not in the things around you.
yeah i understand what your saying but i belive that is what God wants for me other wise i wouldnt have gone to school to be an Emt every thing showed me this is what God wants for me and i dont want to throw that in the drain. ive been doing some research and saw something about natural family planning do you know anything about it
Natural family planning is simply not having sex when you are most fertile (ovulating). It is not known to be reliable as women can get pregnant any time during the month. I am personally not against bc. I believe it is wrong to kill a life; preventing it is not the same. However, saying that if, "God didn't want people to use birth control he wouldn't have allowed it to be invented." is like saying God must be ok with us smoking crack otherwise he wouldn't have allowed it to be invented. Please do not misunderstand me. I am not downgrading you in anyway. I'm just saying you need to have a valid argument. This might also help when you bring it up with your husband. Speak to him at a time when he isn't busy. Make a list ahead of time of valid points i.e. God gave the commandment to Adam and Eve there are now 6 billion people on Earth. I think they succeeded! Are you sincerely seeking God's will in this matter. Perhaps, if in all kindness you share your fears of having more children, especially right away, your husband would be willing to agree to bc for a time until you two can come to an agreement. I would recomment using bc pills or a diaphragm (sp). That way it's not your "husbands responsability" I went back to school and then to work when my children were small. I missed so much. We even worked opposites to keep our kids out of daycare. Let me tell you that is hard on a marriage. Not being home is my biggest regret. I am now a sahm and I love it! It's so important to raise our children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord as the Bible commands us. Having a tubal or a vasectomy is a very permenant solution. Have you considered an IUD? Don't let 5-10 years scare you. You can have it removed at any time.
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