my husband and I got in last night and he told me that he wished he never married me or even met me.
Yes I take of the kids I don't do the house work until after the kids go to bed. I am the one who raises the kids while he either plays on his computer or his ps3. I am the one cooks and does laundry but appetly I don't anything I just sit on my ass all day and I let the kids do what they want!
I love my husband! I was talking to his mom yesterday all praises to her son and my day ends like that. I need your advice! I have prayed our sex life to pick up again I have prayed to become a better wife and mother it just seems God isn't listening. I was so upset that i picked up a knife thinknig to myself may I want just end it all than I thought of my kids and my husband. He threatens me all time saying that if we ever got a divorce I would never see my kids agian.
I need some Christian advice lead to some bible verses please.
He sounds emotionally nasty! Sometimes a separation is necessary to work through the emotions individually before you can beging to work on the marriage. Is there anyway that you and the kids can go somewhere for awhile....like 6 months? That is usually how long it takes to work through some things to make permanent change. The point of separation is to work things not divorce.
Never think of taking your life, God has a purpose for it and you have no right to take a life...not even your own. Besides, your children would forever suffer.
Keep praying and hang in there.
Sometimes putting an end to your life sounds like the right thing to do but it NEVER is. The devil is a master at telling lies. When you feel depressed and wanting to do something extreme think logically about the future about what consequences are about to be unleashed. Your children for starters, like the lady before me stated "Your children would forever suffer". It doesn't matter, they will always question why you didn't love them enough to stay.
I can remember a season in my life when I was constantly praying for my marriage. (Understand first, that things now aren't sunshiny perfect but I can see over the years that there has been a positive change) While I was praying for my marriage I understood that both my husband and myself needed to change in different areas. And I prayed for the both of us to make the changes necessary. Over time I began to change, putting away bad habits and replacing them with healthy habits that were good for our marriage. But over a year or so as I was changing I couldn't help but notice that even though I was changing my husband still wasn't. I couldn't understand this. I remember a specific night that I sat there crying and praying. I knew that God believed and supported marriage so I didn't understand why He wasn't answering my prayers. Why wasn't my husband changing??? I asked Him that very question and in my heart I felt the Spirit answer " Because I'm not changing him, I'm changing you." That answer has forever changed my life. I learned in that moment that it wasn't about my husband but about me. Does my husband need to do what is right in the sight of God? Yes, but it's not for me to take care of. I need to only focus on me and my spiritual walk. When I compare myself to my husband I can convince myself and many others that I am a wonderful person and beautiful christian but when I compare myself to Christ I see my flaws very clearly. Which is why most people prefer to compare themselves to others instead of God. Over the next few years I continued to pray for my spiritual change and God has moved mountains in my life. I still struggle with sin in different areas, I'm flawed because I'm still a work in progress but I can honestly say that I'm not who I was. I've been changed greatly. And now I am starting to see positive changes in my husband. Sometimes God leaves problems in our lives to strengthen us spiritually. My spiritual lessons can never be taken away and if I didn't walk through the fire myself I couldn't sit here tonight and help encourage you. So focus on you. Any time we pray for change in a relationship God will always start by changing the one that is praying. Sometimes it seems as if God isn't answering our prayers and it may not be the case every time but a lot of times He has already answered us but we are refusing to listen. There are times that we want to see change in our lives and pray for it and in some way He will reveal some sin that we need to repent of. But when we don't want to repent of those sins we are not able to move forward and we find ourselves constantly praying the same things over and over again. So search yourself. Ask God to reveal to you sins that need to be repented of. And remember that true repentance is sorrow of sin AND turning away from it. Just simply saying that you are sorry but never changing your actions will never get you any where. Mere lip service to God will get you now where. Just going through the motions will not do it either. Psalm 51:16,17 "You do not delight in sacrifice, or I would bring it; You do not take pleasure in burnt offerings. The sacrifices of the God are a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, You will not desprise."
God can change our hearts in ways that we can't. But He will not zap you into what you ought to be. When he reveals sin that needs repenting of, be faithful and repent and trust Him to do what you can't. But change takes time. So do what is right and trust God with the rest.
Psalm 9:9
The LORD is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.
Psalm 30:5
Weeping may remain for a night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.
Psalm 34:18
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit
Psalm 73:26
My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.
Matthew 11:25-30
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.
Welcome Mimi! I'm glad you have found us but I am so sorry that it was under these circumstances. It breaks my heart to hear of what you and so many others are going through.
Any time we feel unloved the temptation to do something extreme always sounds like a good answer. I have thought of running away myself before. I have some clue of what you are feeling. But don't give in to these feelings. With all of me I urge you to turn away from these thoughts. This is not God's way! It is the devil's way. And any time you think about it if you allow yourself to continue to think about it this will continue to grow and eat at you until you are convinced to follow through with your plans. Instead, any time this thought (or any negative thought about your marriage and husband) crosses your mind IMMEDIATELY turn away from that thought and pray for ya'll instead. Pray for yourself and pray your husband. You will be amazed at what this will do for you, your attitude and even him! I promise! Philippians 4:8 " Finally brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable- if anything is excellent or praiseowrthy - think about such things." Now that is a sweet verse but lets put it into practice. God doesn't give advice, He isn't telling us that we can do this if we want to. He said :THINK ON THESE THINGS. Don't allow the devil to trick you into focusing on the negative (and I'm not saying that we just put on our rosy glasses and pretend that there isn't anything negative) I'm saying that we fight the negative with the positive. Read Romans 12:9-21 That whole section is amazing but lets focus on the point of those verses and you will find it in verse 21 "Do not be overcome by evil but overcome evil with good." Memorize that verse, pray that verse, live that verse. If Christ lives in you then it will be possible for you to overcome evil with good. Feel free to contact me when ever you need to.
Phillipians 4:6-7 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peaceof God which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
I John 5:14 And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us.
Your family will be in my prayers. You are not alone.
What are your favorite books of the bible?
- soontobemommy22
on Jul. 29, 2011 at 10:07 AM