We like different things, but it doesn't cause us any problems. He likes Nascar races; I don't care for them. He goes with our boys and I stay home. I like puzzles; he's bored out of his mind with puzzles. So I do them by myself. I think it's important that you find one or two things you both like and can do together, but individuality is great in marriage, too. We both enjoy music, so we go to concerts together. If you have one thing in common, you can center your together time on that one thing.
Our hobbies and interests are very different so it's not normal for him to be very interested in what I'm doing or watching. And yes it bothers me, I feel like we are missing out on the "friendship" part of our relationship. It's something that I have been praying about for years now. I have seen some improvement over the years but I would love it if he were a little more involved. I try to make a habit out of getting involved in whatever he is doing, literally sitting on the side of his chair and ask him questions about what he's involved in. That's been great and there are times when I just take time to explain what I'm doing to him (gotta make sure he is in the mood to listen first though! :) and since I have let him in on what I do he takes time to ask me about it from time to time.
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