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5 Love Languages : Chapter 6

Posted by on Dec. 15, 2008 at 8:49 PM
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The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Chapter 6: Receiving Gifts

These are the official study guide questions for the book. We'll be posting them each week for each chapter. Feel free to post your answers or keep them private. Please post any other questions you would like to ask the group or any other insightful thoughts that you've had for the chapter.  Enjoy!

IMPORTANT THOUGHT:

Gifts are visual symbols of love, whether they are items you

purchased or made, or are simply your own presence made

available to your spouse. Gifts demonstrate that you care, and

they represent the value of the relationship.

1. The value of a gift is in the eye of the beholder. Perhaps you

didn’t especially value a gift you received. Consider the giver’s

intent and reorient your thinking to value the love demonstrated

by the giver.

2. Take Dr. Chapman’s advice and work up a list of gifts your

spouse has especially appreciated in the past. Beyond that,

seek more input from others who know his/her tastes. Now

decide to give one token of love, however small, in line with

those preferences each week for the next month.

3. Perhaps in your mind gifts and finances don’t mix well

at present. Yet if gift giving is an investment in your most

important “possession,” you can view it as a form of savings

or security. Review your budget, and sacrificially give more

to your spouse.

4. Are gifts your mate’s primary love language? Then you may

need to give up your own priorities, at least temporarily. Think

about a time in recent years when your spouse really wanted

something – either a certain gift, or the gift of your presence –

and you failed to come through. Consciously plan to make the

tough choices the next time around.

5. Remember that the gift of yourself means more than just

your physical presence. Attempt for one week to share at least

one important event or feeling in your day. Seek the same from

your spouse.

FOR GROUP DISCUSSION

Share examples of the importance of and types of gifts from

different cultures, family traditions, and personality types. How

do they express love, and why are they of value?

by on Dec. 15, 2008 at 8:49 PM
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by Group Owner on Dec. 29, 2008 at 5:09 PM

I learned alot from this chapter. I don't believe my husband's love language is gifts. But hey, it doesn't hurt to shower him with gifts anyways does it? This was a really easy language to pick up. With this new information on my mind I bought my husband some chips that he mentioned he really liked. I was excited knowing that something that simple was saying "I love you".

                                           Anita

 

 

 

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