Wife Survey

[sweets719]

Here is the wife's survey that was in the back of my copy of The 5 Love Languages. This was a really simple and accurate survey. It helped me understand which of the 5 languages I spoke and it helped clarify what my husband speaks as well.  Please enjoy;  it took me weeks to type it up :)  Post below and let us know what your results were.

Directions: Read the 2 options and choose one. Some can be difficult but only pick one. Keep a tally of how many A, B, C, D, E you have.

1 Sweet notes from my husband make me feel good   A
   I love my husbands hugs   E
 
2 I like to be alone with my husband   B
   I feel loved when my husband washes my car   D
 
3 Recieving special gifts from my husband makes me happy  C
   I enjoy long trips with my husband   B
 
4 I feel loved when my husband helps with the laundry   D
   I like it when my husband touches me   E
 
5 I feel loved when my husband puts his arm around me   E
   I know my husband loves me becasue he suprises me with gifts   C
 
6 I going most anywhere with my husband   B
   I like to hold my husband's hand    E
 
7 I value the gifts my husband gives me   C
   I love to hear my husband say he loves me   A
 
8 I like for my husband to sit close to me.   E

   My husband tells me I look good, and I like that.   A

 

9 Spending time with my husband makes me happy.   B

   Even the smallest gift from my husband is importnat to me. C

 

10 I feel loved when my husband tells me he is proud of me.   A

    When my husband helps clean up after a meal, I know that he loves me.   D

 

11 No matter what we do, I love doing things with my husband.  B

    Supportive comments from my husband make me feel good.    A

 

12 Little things my husband does for me mean more to me than things he says.   D

    I love to hug my husband.    E

 

13 My husband's praise means a lot to me.   A

     It means a lot to me that my husband gives me gifts I really like.   C

 

14 Just being around my husband makes me feel good.   B

    I love it when my husband goves me a massage.   E

 

15 My husbnad's reactions to my accomplishments are so encouraging.    A

    It means a lot to me when my husbnad helps with something I know he lates.   D

 

16 I never get tired of my husband's kisses.     E

    I love that my husband shows real interest in things I like to do.   B

 

17 I can count on my husband to help me with projects.   D

    I still get excited when opening a gift from my husband.   C

 

18 I love for husband to compliment my appearence.    A

     I love that my husband listens to me and respects my ideas.   B

 

19 I can't help but touch my husband when he's close by.   E

     My husband sometimes run errands for me, and I appreciate that.   D

 

20 My husband deserves an award for all the things he does to help me.   D

     I'm sometimes amazed at how thoughtful my husband's gifts to me are.   C

 

21 I love having my husband's undivided attention.   B

    I love that my husband helps clean the house.    D

 

22 I look forward to seeing what my husband gives me for my birthday.   C

     I never get tired of hearing my husband tell me that I am important to him.    A

 

23 My husband lets me know he loves me by giving me gifts.    C

    My husband shows his love by helping me without me having to ask.    D

 

24 My husband doesn't interrupt me when I am talking, and I like that.     B

    I never get tired of recieving gifts from my husband.     C

 

25 My husband is good about asking how he can help when I'm tired.    D

    It doesn't matter where we go, I just like going places with my husband.     C

 

26 I love cuddling with my husband.    E

    I love suprise gifts from my husband.   C

 

27 My husband's encouraging words give me confidence.    A

    I love to watch movies with my husband.    B

 

28 I couldn't ask for any better gifts than the ones my husband gives me.    C

    I love it that my husband can't keep his hands off me.    E

 

29 It means a lot to me when my husband helps me despite being busy.    D

    It makes me feel really good when my husband tells me he appreciates me.    A

 

30 I love hugging and kissing my husband after we've been apart for a while.    E

    I love hearing my husband tell me that he missed me.    A

 

 

Interpreting and using your profile score:

A:  Words of Affirmation

B: Quality Time

C: Receiving Gifts

D: Acts of Service

E: Physical Touch

 

Your primary love language is the one that recieved the highest score. You are "bilingual" and have 2 primary love languages if point totals are equal for any 2 love languages. If  your second highest scoring love language is close in score but not equal to your primary language then this simply means that both expressions of love are important to you. The highest possible score for any love language is 12.

 

 

You may have scored certain ones of the love languages more highly than others, but do not dismiss those other languages as insignificant. Your husband may express love in those ways, and it will be helpful to you to understand this about him. In the same way, it will benefit your husband to know your love language and express his affection for you in ways that you interpret as love.

 
 

 

 

[sweets719]

I tied for Words of Affirmation and Quality Time.   And the closest one to them was Physical Touch. I have heard about the love languages before from a few different radio programs but I never could figure out which one I spoke and this really helped me figure it out.

[supermom11995]

Here's mine:

A-3

B-8

C-0

D-7

E-12

[jhg374]

What's funny is it has changed a little bit since we took this test before we got married almost 10 years ago. And what is funny is that I have grown in the area that is my husbands love language. Which is WONDERFUL! I love knowing that his love language is growing in my and I am able to more accuratly let him know I love him!

A -7

B -9

C -1

D -3

E -10

It used to be that C was right up there with A & E and D was 0. (D is my hubby's love language... LOL) I love the growth that I have made in the past years!

[Carrie5683]

This is very interesting.My husband naturally does "acts of service" he is great about that..an dI definately appreciate that. However, that's not how I feel the most love from him.What really makes me feel "in love" or just what brings about my loving feelings is the "words of affirmation" and "physical touch"   Those things he struggles with..esp. "w.o.a"..

Maybe I desire those things so much because he does them so little who knows...and we've read the book together..we know exactly what the other wants/needs..but its like we get slack....I do feel like I try to speak his language but I don't always sense that he's trying to speak mine..you know?

[sweets719]

Quoting Carrie5683:

I do feel like I try to speak his language but I don't always sense that he's trying to speak mine..you know?

I know exactly what you mean. My husband hasn't (and most likely won't) read this book. And part of me knows that he most likely will never understand what I what to hear from him. But I've had a unique experience where I am actually reading this book and Power of the Praying Wife at the same time. So everything that this book points out that we need to be doing I am learning how to give those things over in proper prayer instead of the ever convenient nagging ritual I usual would do. So if you haven't read Power of the Praying Wife yet, you may want to consider picking it up. It's been very helpful.