What is a Surrendered Wife?

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  • fostermommyof3
  on May. 12, 2009 at 11:35 AM

• Is this a group that believes that disciplining a wife is accectable?  Or is it just about having a submissive spirit, and attitude? 

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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  • sugarmagnolia1
  on May. 12, 2009 at 12:19 PM

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  Quoting fostermommyof3:
  
  

  Is this a group that believes that disciplining a wife is accectable?  Or is it just about having a submissive spirit, and attitude? 

  I think its all about the submissive spirit and attitude. I think from what I have learned so far is that following those 6 principals will make your husband happy and therefore you will be happy also. Im sorry but no real man would "discipline" his wife. Women arent animals or children.
  

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  • momneedscoffee
  on May. 12, 2009 at 12:22 PM

• Our group is built around the idea of cultivating a submissive spirit and attitude. 

  BUT, being a submissive/surrendered wife happens to be a HUGE umbrella!  There are MANY different opinions and beliefs that are under that umbrella.

  So, although for some it is quite acceptable in their own marriage, for others they would not feel comfortable with this in their marriage.

  This group does not use one "written in stone" way of being submissive/surrendered.  I can say that we DO NOT CONDONE ANY TYPES OF ABUSE!!  If the discipline is agreed on by the husband AND wife, and, of course, have set up their own "safety measures", then this is their own choice for their own lifestyle.

  We do not discuss this type of choice very often at all, though.  I think there has only been a couple few different threads about it...and those where some time ago.

  Thanks for the question! If you have any more, please do not hesitate to ask! 
  

  Quoting fostermommyof3:
  
  

  Is this a group that believes that disciplining a wife is accectable?  Or is it just about having a submissive spirit, and attitude? 

  
  

  
  
       
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  • Celtic_Dragon
  on May. 21, 2009 at 1:34 PM

• What about a surendered husband? Wouldn't it make more sense in a marriage if we surrendered to each other? No one has the dominate role in a relationship?
  

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  • momneedscoffee
  on May. 21, 2009 at 3:49 PM

• Here is an excerpt from the Fascinating Womanhood book...

  Any organization, to have a smooth-running system, must have a leader--a president, captain, supervisor, director, or chief.  This is a matter of law and order.  The family, a small group of people , must be organized to avoid chaos.  It doesn't matter how large or small the family; even though it be just man and wife, there must be a leader to maintain order. 

  
  

  It goes on to say...

  There is a great effort now to do away with the patriarchy and replace it with equality, in which the husband and wife make decisions by mutual agreement.  Although this idea may sound good on the surface, it is impractical and unworkable.  Some decisions can be reached by mutual agreement buy many others cannot.  A man and wife may never agree on some issues.  When a decision must be made, someone must take the lead.

  
  

  If two people, say within a marriage, always surrendered or submitted to each other...how would decisions ever be made? 

  Like when deciding where to eat.  One person asks..."Where would you like to eat?"...Then other, "I don't know, where would you like to eat?"...The first person, "I don't care, what ever you want."...Back to the second, "No, we can go where ever you would like." 

  If BOTH people continued to surrender and submit to the other...then NO ONE would be getting anything to eat!

  Someone will HAVE to step up and make that decision...to take the lead.  Us, being surrendered wives, we...the majority of the time, but not always...will step aside {so to speak} and let our husbands take that lead.

  
  

  Some of our members are Christian and they submit to their husbands because they found the inspiration in the Bible.  Others find a great stress relief in allowing their husbands to take charge...less for them to have to worry about in a day!  Still others are finding that with them being surrendered to their husbands, their husbands are acting differently...in a wonderful way!  They are more thoughtful, caring, generous, and more!

  There are many reasons why a person would decide to be a submissive or surrendered wife...and probably not a whole lot of them would be the same!  But, we do all agree that we have seen positive outcomes to allowing our husbands to be head of our homes.

  If you have any other questions, please don't hesitate to post them!
  

  
  

  Quoting Celtic_Dragon:
  
  

  What about a surrendered husband? Wouldn't it make more sense in a marriage if we surrendered to each other? No one has the dominate role in a relationship?

  
  

  
  
       
  Please visit...
      Submissive and Surrendered Wives
           come join us for our 30-Day Challenge!
   Why settle for OK, when WOW is just an attitude away!
  

  and my blog...
     Nurturing Hearts, Heads, & Hands
       
  

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  • xosparklesxo
  on Jun. 10, 2009 at 5:51 PM

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  Quoting Celtic_Dragon:
  
  

  What about a surendered husband? Wouldn't it make more sense in a marriage if we surrendered to each other? No one has the dominate role in a relationship?

  
  Honestly, when both people fight for control, it's a disaster.  I believe if both people are trying to be submissive it's an equal disaster!

  It's kind of like when we try to go out with my in-laws for dinner.  We seriously spend like an hour trying to decide where to eat because no-one wants to make the decision!  We all want to respect each other and make sure everyone else is happy and honestly it just gets stupid!  *LOL*  I would love to just take control of the whole matter sometimes and pick a place, but this is my husband and his parents and I just feel that would be inappropriate!

  To me, one of the successes of being a surrendered wife is that your husband wants to take care of you!  In taking care of you he will WANT to take your thoughts and ideas and wants into consideration when making a decision.  Just because the decision is ultimately his does not mean he will be making it based on his needs alone!  In fact, with my husband, his world truly revolves around me.  Pretty much anything he does is for me or are children.  He will go spend $200 on craft supplies for me, but will actually get mad at me for spending $50 on something for him!  There is no need for him to be submissive in any way, he is taking care of me, while I take care of him, we just have very set roles! 

  I handle the houswork, he handles the finances and brings in the income, as well as handling any major house things like repairs and anything outside like yardwork, and we handle the children together!  Having set roles makes things easy!  If the lawn needs to be mowed he knows it's his responsibility.  The grass could be growing to my knees and I wouldn't care because it's not my problem.  This gives us less opportunities to spark an argument!  Just knowing our own responsibilities.  When we both worked and I was not the slightest bit submissive who should be doing the laundry could become a real sense of frustration for both of us!  Now that I am pregnant and falling behind on housework it's back to that same sense of frustration.  I cannot handle it all myself right now, and it's much more difficult communicating effectively and not being frustrated with one another keeping the house clean. I so prefer doing it myself!

   

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  • AilleyaLunaMay
  on Aug. 20, 2009 at 8:24 AM

• Me and my hubby already have this type of relationship in some aspects, but how would I aproach him with this? I want to be more, a better wife and mother, but I need help from more experienced women. Sometimes I do not know how to handle certain situations, and I get stressed out and blow up or I feel bad. I want to better our relationship and have more peace and a happier life together... I am not sure where to start. 

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  • momneedscoffee
  on Aug. 20, 2009 at 8:43 AM

• Joining the group is a great start!  There are LOTS of posts throughout the forum with lots of advice, inspiration, and support.  If you have ANY specific questions...just post your question. 

  We are all here for each other.

  You could also try the 30 Day Challenge...it would also be a good place to start.
  

  Quoting AilleyaLunaMay:
  
  

  Me and my hubby already have this type of relationship in some aspects, but how would I aproach him with this? I want to be more, a better wife and mother, but I need help from more experienced women. Sometimes I do not know how to handle certain situations, and I get stressed out and blow up or I feel bad. I want to better our relationship and have more peace and a happier life together... I am not sure where to start. 

  
  

  

             
  

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