Looking for advice

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  • doulala
  on Sep. 4, 2009 at 3:22 PM

• Sounds like he's working on it~  but not ready yet.   It's not really ECing anymore, so you have to just be patient now.   Wait for him to be ready...  

  It WILL get easier, though.   He will probably do better without any pressure or emotion from you.   No matter what he does, just be indifferent, try not to show your frustration.

  Some kids just change overnight.  Some children will still need diapers to sleep until they're 4 or 5 or so.   Patience is hard, I understand.   But it's better for your guy.

  Hugs!!!!

  
  

  Birth is not only about making babies. Birth is about making mothers ~ strong, competent, capable mothers who trust themselves and know their inner strength.

  ~Barbara Katz Rothma

  
  

  When you change the way you view birth, the way you birth will change. -Mongan

  
  

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  • sunshinepraying
  on Sep. 4, 2009 at 3:41 PM

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  Quoting doulala:
  
  

  Sounds like he's working on it~  but not ready yet.   It's not really ECing anymore, so you have to just be patient now.   Wait for him to be ready...  

  It WILL get easier, though.   He will probably do better without any pressure or emotion from you.   No matter what he does, just be indifferent, try not to show your frustration.

  Some kids just change overnight.  Some children will still need diapers to sleep until they're 4 or 5 or so.   Patience is hard, I understand.   But it's better for your guy.

  Hugs!!!!

   

  No, it's not ECing anymore. But that is what we did with him from 9 months old until he was over a year. It's actually been potty training for half a yr. to a yr. now. Like I said, he stays dry through the night and if he has to go, will cry for us to come and take him. So he's night-trained. He became night-trained at 18 months. He's just not day trained. I'd even be happy if he was just day pee-trained. He is just so close but has been at this close stage for awhile now. I try to just not say anything or show emotion. But will it click or will he just keep like this, knowing there's no reason for him to go further in the potty training?

  Thanks for your response. I really appreciate it. :) 

   

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  • doulala
  on Sep. 4, 2009 at 7:17 PM

• Oh, yah.   He will, eventually.   

  At my former job, working with preschoolers, most of the children under 3 wore their diapers day & night.   Those under 4 were being encouraged to use the potty-reminded-helped.   We were very happy to let the children lead the way and follow their cues.   They all got there, eventually.     ;-)
  

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  • sunshinepraying
  on Sep. 4, 2009 at 8:47 PM

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  Quoting doulala:
  
  

  Oh, yah.   He will, eventually.   

  At my former job, working with preschoolers, most of the children under 3 wore their diapers day & night.   Those under 4 were being encouraged to use the potty-reminded-helped.   We were very happy to let the children lead the way and follow their cues.   They all got there, eventually.     ;-)

  
  Really? That's weird. I thought they didn't allow children in the class who aren't potty trained by three..not that mine will be in school by then, but still. The preschool I worked at before I had my son said the kids had to be in underwear and trained before they could go in the three's classroom. The children who were in the 2's class were also potty trained with the teacher's help.

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  • solamia
  on Sep. 5, 2009 at 5:49 PM

• YOU ARE SOOOOOOOO NOT ALONE.  I WHOLEHEARTEDLY EMPATHIZE WITH YOU AND IT IS QUITE FRUSTRATING, YET IT'S MERELY A WAITING GAME. 

  Genuinely and Respectfully,

  
  

  Normia R. Vazquez Scales

  
  

  Active Mother, Professional and Obamacan

  
  

   

  
  

   

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  • sunshinepraying
  on Sep. 5, 2009 at 5:58 PM

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  Quoting solamia:
  
  

  YOU ARE SOOOOOOOO NOT ALONE.  I WHOLEHEARTEDLY EMPATHIZE WITH YOU AND IT IS QUITE FRUSTRATING, YET IT'S MERELY A WAITING GAME. 

  
  So I take it you are or have had similar problems? ;) Too bad there isn't a button you can press to make it click. Heh.

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  • doulala
  on Sep. 5, 2009 at 6:16 PM

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  Quoting sunshinepraying:
  
  

  Really? That's weird. I thought they didn't allow children in the class who aren't potty trained by three..not that mine will be in school by then, but still. The preschool I worked at before I had my son said the kids had to be in underwear and trained before they could go in the three's classroom. The children who were in the 2's class were also potty trained with the teacher's help.

  I guess it would depend on the program.
  I have seen that rule apply in some other schools, but diaper changing and potty learning was a big part of our day at these schools.

  
  

  
  

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  • demonkitty
  on Sep. 22, 2009 at 12:56 PM

• i know im obv having issues potty training my 2nd child but my first was very simple. he wouldnt fully potty train till he was taught how to stand up and pee. we bought him a stool and he would occasionally go to the bathroom with daddy. thats when he fully stopped having accidents cuz he figured out the quicker way to potty. it worked for him but doesnt work for my 2nd child. he likes pretending to stand n pee like his big brother but like your son...he just doesnt care where he goes. floor,diaper,undies...it doesnt matter

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  • sunshinepraying
  on Sep. 23, 2009 at 8:57 AM

• We haven't tried having him stand to go yet, but I don't think he'd even be able to reach yet, even on the stool. He still has to grow a little before he can do that

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