PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME WHAT COULD GOD POSSIBLY EXPECT ME TO DO WITH THIS SITUATION

[tanishagreene]

I am the mother to a 1 yr old baby girl. This is my first and only child. I am also a stay at home mother and wife. To some what I’m about to say may sound little but for me and the way that I was raised this is a huge deal. I am literally to my limit with my daughters grandmother. This woman has to literally be out of her mind!!! Sometimes I wonder if she is obsessed with my daughter. This woman has a total of six grandchildren including mine. Out of all of her grands she has no interest in none of them but two that would be mines and my husband other child. She is extremely overbearing when we come to her home to visit she immediately takes over all of my responsibities as her mother like feeding her, changing her, carrying her around with her everywhere she go, trying to put her to sleep if its her nap time. As soon as we walk in the door she literally began to take her out of my arms. I work for this woman two days out of the week in her home so she is guaranteed two days out of the week to see my daughter and yet and still when we see her at church she still feels the need to ask me to keep that night!!! Just this past week I did have to work for her and for three days straight this woman repeatedly called and texted my phone and left voice messages about coming to see my daughter. Sunday I did not answer her or reply to her texts and the nest thing I know she is banging on my door unannounced to I guess try to force her way to my daughter. Please let me make this clear before I end this I have no problem with her seeing my daughter, and I am truly thankful that she is so open and willing to keep my daughter at anytime. My problem is I was raised by a single parent my mother always had me with her she never handed me off to family members for thee weekends or anything like that I can count on both hands how many times I stayed with my grandmother. I am not the type of parent that needs a break from my baby, as a parent I feel my time to recollect myself from a trying day with my child should be her naptime and bedtime (which is at 9 I go to bed around 12 more than enough time). As I mentioned before I am a stay at home mother. For me I would feel totally less of a mother to have my daughter off at someone else’s house while Im at home doing nothing but cleaning up. Am I wrong ? Am I being selfish? Please tell me what I should do?

[MomTiara19]

Hi,I have a creepy mil like this.

Except her obsession is with another grandchild in the family.

I would let her know she is appreciated but that you are her mom.

Start setting up boundaries and let her know if she oversteps them.

Good Luck~

~Tia

[sassy71]

 i can say is...good luck and keep praying. My mother is like this and I'm 40 yrs old, I constantly say I feel like the babysitter, all i did was have them. My oldest is 20, married and soon to be a father and instead of us having a mother daughter/friends relationship...she tries to make my son her best friend and calls him to "discuss" her issues about me with him...seriously. It is a problem and I do feel what u are going thru and yes I have set boundaries that she over steps and because i don't want to make my kids feel any discord or uncomfortableness...I give it to God.