Sorry ladies, i finally got done, woo hooo:
Scripture says, "Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart" Ps. 37:4. This means God will put the desires in her heart that He wants to be there. In other words, God places that kind of passion within the deepest longings of a person. The wife's responsibility is to ask God for that passion and then diligently to seek God through His written Word. She also has a responsibility to cultivate a grateful attitude and thankfulness to God regardless of her circumstances
•· 1Th 5:18 In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.
To cultivate a grateful attitude, she will have to deliberately think grateful thoughts to God even though she may not feel like it. God will do the rest, because it is consistent with His character that He answer such a prayer,
•· 1Jn 5:14 And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us:
•· 15 And if we know that he hear us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him.
Some Wrong Desires (if idolatrous/lustful): keep in mind, these are if you want these more then you God.
- That my husband will be affectionate
- That he will anticipate my needs without my asking.
- That he will give me compliments
- That he will make me feel special
- That he will not hurt my feelings
- That he will talk to me and share his thoughts and feelings
- That he will put me first
- On the other hand, a wife should have her heart set on...
- That I may know God's word and obey it.
- That I may delight in Him
- That I may seek Him with all my heart.
- That I may be pleasing to Him regardless of my circumstances.
- That I may cultivate an attitude of joy and gratitude in what God is doing in my life no matter what my husband does or does not do.
- That I may have joy in God deciding how my life and circumstances can glorify Him the most, that He can use me for His glory.
What is your heart set on? What is really important to you? What you have your heart set on will make all the difference in the world in your fulfillment and your joy. Ask God to give you new heart's desires. Then proceed to seek after God with the same passion and energy that you are currently expending on idolatrous desires.
- 1Jn 2:15 Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16 For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. 17 And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.
- If then you have been raised up with Christ, keep seeking the things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth. For you have died and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ who is our life, is revealed, then you also will be revealed with Him in Glory. Colosians 3:1-4
Some of the Several ways to ‘set your mind on the things above" are as follows:
- Think about and deliberately delight in the Lord-His works (creation, salvation, personal pruning in your life).
- Build contentment in your life. Frequently thank Him for your circumstances. Think about today and the future in a positive way, look forward to what God is doing to do in your life and how He is going to be glorified through you.
- Pray and ask God to give you new motives for ‘It is God who is at work in you, both to will and to work for His good pleasure' Plip. 2:13. If you delight in Him, He will give you new desires and motives in your heart. "Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart" Ps. 37:4. This means He will replace your idolatrous desires with the desires He wants you to have.
- Invest more of your spare time in Scripture, meditate on scripture, memorize Scripture, and think about Scripture.
- Make your goal to please the Lord, not personal happiness.
- Be alert to sinful anger (you'll feel frustrated) and/or anxiety as an indicator that your motive is likely not righteous. As soon as you are aware that you are sinning, confess it to God. Take the time and effort to think a God-Honoring thought in place of the idolatrous thought.
Allison was miserable because she was sinning. It was not her circumstances that caused her to sin, it was her idolatrous heart. After counseling, Allison repented. Now it is more likely that her husband will begin to be drawn to her sweetness and he, too may repent. Even if he does not, Allison will still be serving and worshipping the Lord Jesus Christ, the King on her throne, will all her heart.