My fiance is in the national guard, were trying to go active duty but it seems to take forever. We are expecting our first child in the beginning or October and living with his mother. If he stays with the unit he is with he will be going to Afghanistan in may of next year possibly. I respect the army and everything it stands for but the unit he's with is a joke, ever since he's been there its been a mess no one knows protocol. He is completely respected throughout his company everyone goes to him for help when needed, but were both miserable with the place. He keeps leaving for months at a time. I need someone to talk to but there is no one around that understands what I'm going threw. His mother just rubs it in his face when hes having a bad day and when he's gone, no one in my family knows what its like for their man to be gone.