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My son talks too much in school
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in Elementary Moms
on Nov. 6, 2009 at 3:12 PM
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HI everyone,
I need some help. My son talks too much in school and is driving his teacher crazy. He already has a behavior chart to address some other issues. He's a good student in the sense that he gets his work done and it's done correctly but he just won't stop talking. Yesterday his teacher cornered me after school and said "I can't take it anymore. You have to do something. He will not stop talking." I told her that I don't know what I can do about it while he's at school. I can only reinforce things at home. I asked me son why he talks so much in class and he told me "because I have a lot to say". I think the issue is that he's bored, has a lot to say and has poor impulse control. The teacher frames it as a lack of respect for her but I don't think that's it. In any event, I wrote a letter to her yesterday and suggested that she allow my son to keep a journal so that he can write down the things he wants to say so he doesn't forget them. Then, he can tell his friends and the teacher the information at a more appropriate time. Does anyone else have any suggestions? I didn't tell the teacher that when I was in second grade, I had my desk moved to the front of the classroom, away from all the other kids because I talked too much. I did end up going on to law school where talking a lot was to my advantage. Try getting a room full of lawyers to shut up for ten minutes :)
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- by on Nov. 6, 2009 at 10:14 PM
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I am in the same boat as you. My middle son is my nonstop talker. He has a never ending quest for answers, lol. His report card was straight A's but both his teachers commented on him talking excessively during class. And to make matters worse the school does NOT allow talking during lunch. B/c it is easier to hear a child choking in a quiet room.
I love the journal idea. But I recall seeing a post someone on CM about a teacher allowing the child to have 3 post it notes, and he could use them to ask a question. But once they were gone he had to remain quiet the rest of the class unless called upon. Or something along those lines.
I would love some suggestions as well.
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- by on Nov. 6, 2009 at 10:22 PM
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My ss is the same way...been like that since kinder..he is also hyper too.she was diagnosed with adhd. While on his meds though the talking is not as bad but he is in 4th so he is trying to show off and be class clown right now so we are having problems with him too.
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- by on Nov. 7, 2009 at 2:28 PM
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We had the same problem! Give your son a small notebook to write his comments in, evaluate his diet (www.feingold.org is a great place to start) and give him fish oil supplements.
Robin in Chicago
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- by on Nov. 14, 2009 at 4:20 PM
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My son is the same way! I have to say though that his kg teachers and this yrs (2nd grade) teacher seem more understanding. I had many problems last year. I would get notes home that sometimes included morning work that he didn't do because he was talking. She said he was a good student but didn't know when not to speak. She also said, that there are worse things than a talker but we needed to keep it under control. I feel it is not a respect issue. I feel it is the teacher's responsibility to control those things. In our case, I felt that the teacher didn't have control of her classroom. There needs to be reminders & reasonable consequences. I feel in my son's case his teacher did not know how to keep his talking under control. A look and a verbal whisper normal get him right back on track. This year I've only gotten one note about the talking and she said it normally wasn't a major issue. So, I believe it's on how the teacher chooses to handle it. JMO
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