posts about kids needing thier own bedrooms, space, and privacy PIOG
I have noticed a lot of posts about everyone needing their own space and privacy. kids needing their own room, etc. We have a son 6 and we have SD 8 about half the time, and one due in March. The kids have bunkbeds in their room, when baby moves out of a crib I will add him/her to the bunkbeds( twin bed on top, double on bottom) with whichever gender he/she is. My kids are allowed to sleep and dress in there only. SD also can put on her jewelry in there. The room is not used during the day, its for sleeping. The room has two dressers, two nightstands, and the bunkbeds that is it. There are no toys, books, etc in there. Except SD's jewelry and makeup(our son kept getting into it when it was in the playroom). Our kids have a playroom with tv, etc that they use during the day or they go outside. This room is big enough to accomodate them and two or three of their friends. We have neighbor kids in our house all the time. I plan on just updating the room as they get older. Ya know less toys more electronics or whatever for them as teenagers. I want my kids doing things in front of me, not behind closed doors. So since my kids only know privacy as closing the door when you dress or when your in the bathroom, do they really need their own space? I guess I don't understand the point. My own bedroom is for sleeping and dressing, its bare like my kids room a bed, two dressers, two nightstands. The only thing I have in there besides clothes is my jewelry and lotions. I spend my days in the rest of the house. I guess I just wanted to understand the purpose of space, privacy, own rooms because I wasn't raised that way and neither have my kids been. It was never an issue when I was growing up. There was four of us(two girls, two boys) and we always had a room for sleeping and one for playing/tv/games etc. I don't think it will be an issue with my kids because they don't know any difference. But I was wondering about it since I keep seeing it pop up on different forums in here. What are your arrangements like, what rules do you have?
Calvin David Photo Freak Kasi Lynn Baby
I do believe that children need their own space and privacey. Especially children of opposites sexes. Personally I would never put my son and daughter in a bedroom together. How uncomfortable that could be for them as they grow older! My daughter is 8 years old and has her own bedroom, my son is 6 months old and has his own bedroom, and of course my husband and I have our bedroom. We use our bedrooms for relaxing, reading, playing, sleeping... I think it is very important that we each have our OWN space to go to if we want to be alone. If you only allow your children in their rooms to sleep and dress, where do they go if they need to be alone for a bit?
I am a Private School sending, Vaccinating, Non spanking, Nightmare Cuddling, Dessert Giving, Homework Helping, Bedtime Kissing, Book Reading, Academic pushing Mum. I believe in the benefit of organized after school activities. I believe in spoiling my children. I believe that I have seen the village and I do not want it raising my child - I will do that, Thank You. I believe that a woman's place is in the home taking care of her house, children and husband. I am submissive and proud, my husband is head of my home. I am a proud, traditional Roman Catholic, as is my husband... Yes we are teaching our daughter that The Church is the only Church. Aimee
i actually dont know. they dont have alone time i guess. or i guess when one of them is in the playroom and the other is somewhere else. maybe just not in our house, for example i go out and make handmade cards at the local scrapbooking store when i want to be without my kids and husband.
Calvin David Photo Freak Kasi Lynn Baby
You have the option of leaving the house if you want alone time, or privacy... the children do not have that luxury. Lol, and I'm not sure about your children, but my 8 year old daughter likes to relax and have her own time.
Quoting weaveress:i actually dont know. they dont have alone time i guess. or i guess when one of them is in the playroom and the other is somewhere else. maybe just not in our house, for example i go out and make handmade cards at the local scrapbooking store when i want to be without my kids and husband.
I am a Private School sending, Vaccinating, Non spanking, Nightmare Cuddling, Dessert Giving, Homework Helping, Bedtime Kissing, Book Reading, Academic pushing Mum. I believe in the benefit of organized after school activities. I believe in spoiling my children. I believe that I have seen the village and I do not want it raising my child - I will do that, Thank You. I believe that a woman's place is in the home taking care of her house, children and husband. I am submissive and proud, my husband is head of my home. I am a proud, traditional Roman Catholic, as is my husband... Yes we are teaching our daughter that The Church is the only Church. Aimee
I would be splitting them up, and soon. They need to be able to express themselves in their own way in their own rooms. We're already looking at getting a bigger house because my girls are complaining that they can never be alone because of having to share a room with each other.
after age 5, children of different sexes really need their own rooms. My dd is 7 and she likes having her "girl time". She plays make believe, writes in her diary, etc. We have common areas obviously in the house, but their room is a place they get to call their own. They have privacy when they need it, when they aren't feeling well, just want to be alone. I value my private time, whether its in the tub, shopping alone, or laying in bed reading. I couldn't imagine having my dd and my ds sharing rooms!
I also believe in privacy for kids. I let my kids tell me when they need it. It also has to go with the size and rooms in the house.
My sister insisted that her daughters have their own rooms in the beginning. A crib in each room. I put my youngest son in his older brother's room when my youngest was still in his crib. My oldest was 2 and 1/2. He wanted his brother in with him. When we adopted our daughter she roomed in with us in her crib until she was about 2. We moved out. Then it was her room.
When Hurricane IKE hit and destroyed the two kid rooms. We had to put the 3 kids in the guest room. My daughter kept my boys awake.
After the rooms where repaired, my oldest son then age 9 and 1/2 asked if he could stay in the guest room. My 7 year old son was not happy, but we decided we would split them up. It has worked out well. Our daughter who is 4 plays in her youngest brother's room. I know she will appreciate her own room soon. My 10 year old stays out in the playroom most of the time, but does go in his room to read.
My kids share rooms, but the older ones don't. They pretty much do what they want about sleeping arangements. We have 5 kids still at home and 4 bedrooms for them. My son has his own room and my 14 and 12 yr old dd have their own rooms, but my 5 and 11 yr old dd's share. So, what happens when dd 11 wants her privacy for sleep? She swaps with the 12 year old for the night or might even sleep on the couch. It's actually not uncommon for my son and one of the dd's to sleep on the couch, it's a large wrap around and there is plenty of room.
Most of the kids started out co-sleeping with us, so sharing a room is something they often want to do. But I have noticed that my 14 yr old who co-slept the longest, NEVER wants to share a room. I guess she got her fill early on. LOL
I only have 1 child so he has his own room. We live in a 2 bdrm townhouse style apt that is only about 800 sq ft in university housing. We have a closet underneath the stairs where we keep DS's toys and not in his room. He can play with his toys wherever he likes, in the living room, bedroom, as long as he puts them away. We just dont store them in his room, his room would be a disaster.
I have 3 boys. All a year apart. They used to share a bedroom. But last year our neighbor passed away and left instructions for her son to sell her home to us. She knew we only had a 2 bedroom home. Hers was a 4 bedroom. I noticed my children had their own personality when they got their very own room. Each got to choose the paint color and curtain fabric. They also get to decorate their room how they want. And they each have their own toys in their rooms as well as books. Before they had to compromise with color and bedding. And if they want time alone they can go into their own room and close the door.
I also learned which child was my least organized and which was my very neat.
I think every child needs a place they can go and be alone. Sometimes they just don't want to be around anyone.
Sister's kids' parties and events....too much...need advice
- weaveress
on Nov. 27, 2009 at 6:26 AM