I need some advice because I work in the same school where my child goes to school. My son is not by any means perfect, but he is a pretty good kid. He has been bullied on the playground at school quite a bit this year, and I am perplexed about how to approach it with the principal (or his teacher). We have had this issue because we have taught him that fighting is not appropriate at any time. Now that we are telling him to defend himself, he doesn't want to do it, and he is afraid of getting in trouble at school. I guess there are a couple of issues here. Any advice would be helpful.
That is hard. We also taught my son that we dont hit at all. But then he was getin pushed around and such so we have told him that he can hit or push back and he WILL NOT get in trouble with us!! He knows that what mommy says goes and thats all that matters!
I've told my son from day one that he will never be in trouble from us if he has to defend himself. I even told the school that. Told them that they would discipline as needed, but there would be NO consequences at home and we would support him, especially if I had already been to the school about the bullies. We've also told our daughter the same
What is the schools approach or policy for bullying? Is it a zero tolerance policy? At the school i worked with teacher could be held accountable if they did NOT stop bullying when they saw it. Research the policy and be prepared to site days and times when occurrences happened and approach the principal as a parent not an employee. I know that in our current school district even a child defending themselves physically is subject to suspension for physical altercation.
I would talk to the principal immediately. My son was being bulled some on the bus, and I went directly to the principal's office. They resolved the problem by pulling all the kids in the office and talking to them. My son still has issues with that child (but nothing physical anymore), and things improved greatly after I talked to the school about the issue.
Another thing you need to consider is if only your son is seen pushing, he'll probably be the one that gets in trouble--espically if the school is not aware of him being picked on.
This happened recently with my son and when I brought it up to the teacher she called him a liar and when the principle did nothing about it I went to the superintendent and the school got a major talking to, so far things seem to be going okay but I waiting for the year to end and putting him in a different school.
Start with talking to the teacher. If that doesnt help, go talk to the principal. Hopefully you can get it all worked out!
My daughter went through the same thing with bullies, luckily no one that I know of, ever put their hands on her, only said mean and nasty things to her. I taught my daughter to always use her voice to her adavantage. She can talk her way through tough situations, being respectful, instead of using her fists and if there comes a time when she can't handle it then she is to tell an adult or teacher. I don't condone anything physcial. Also, I pray for protection over my child.
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Quoting momaof8:
why haven't you addressed it with the teacher and principal? Get in there and speak up. Bullying can effect you child's self esteem, ability to learn, and emotional wel being.
I agree. I'm a little confused as to why you haven't spoken to his teacher or the principle yet either, especially, since you stated that "it has happened quite a bit this year." Never be afraid to speak up. You working there has nothing to do with it, this is your child we are talking about.
First a foremost YOU are your child's mother. Handle his situation as you would if you were not employed there. Ask for a meeting with the teacher and the principal, and GC. Explain what is happening. And discuss a way this can be solved ASAP.
Good luck, ad give us and update.
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- Shelby72
on Feb. 9, 2010 at 7:50 AM