Has your child ...

[hholllyy426]

Has your child ever done something to lose your trust? How did they earn it back?

[steelcrazy]

Not that I can think of off the top of my head, if I come up with something I'll let you know.

[CrazedMomof2]

Not completely. But they are 5 and 7 so I am sure they will............

[Radarma]

Not yet, not in a big way. I have caught both of them trying to fib, but it has not yet progressed to a danger zone level.

I am sure it will; lying and cheating/stealing is actually a very common developmental step for a child.

How to rebuild the trust? TIME. It will take TIME. And during that time, little by little you will BOTH feel the trust re-building.

 

[Radarma]

Read THIS hon.

This one is a quick read, and I hope you especially see the part about "if it is an isolated incident, you have nothing to worry about and should remain calm..."

I also think your DH should read some of this and talk to YOU in private before he addresses your son.

HTH's

[kmrtigger]

Quoting Radarma:

Read THIS hon.

This one is a quick read, and I hope you especially see the part about "if it is an isolated incident, you have nothing to worry about and should remain calm..."

I also think your DH should read some of this and talk to YOU in private before he addresses your son.

HTH's

I gotta give this mom KUDOS. Great advice!!!

And to answer the OP....

So far my boys haven't did anything to lose my trust. But given their ages and the time to come, I am sure they will.

[natesmom1228]

Not yet. He pretty much knows what I expect from him and he does it.

[Barabell]

My son went through a period where he was lying about everything (at 7-8 years old--right around his 8th birthday).  I just felt like I couldn't trust him. 

It might sound corny, but I went through the story of The Boy Who Cried Wolf and explained that when you continually lie that you lose trust.  I explained to him that I wanted to trust him, but at that time I could not because of how often he was lying.  I also explained that it would take time for him to build up my trust in his word again.  It took many talks to reenforce this and get the point through to him.  He made a huge effort to stop lying in effort to gain my trust back.  There were a few slip-ups, but he's been honest with me now for about two years.  He definitely gained my trust back, and he intends to keep it now.  He's very honest with me and my DH now.

I'm very proud of him.

[soymujer]

My 3 older ones have lied and lied and lied.  My daughter has said that she was going to be at a friend's house when she was roaming the town with her friend.  They have to prove what they say and she had to prove that she was really where she said she'd be.

[Radarma]

Quoting kmrtigger:

Quoting Radarma:

Read THIS hon.

This one is a quick read, and I hope you especially see the part about "if it is an isolated incident, you have nothing to worry about and should remain calm..."

I also think your DH should read some of this and talk to YOU in private before he addresses your son.

HTH's

I gotta give this mom KUDOS. Great advice!!!

And to answer the OP....

So far my boys haven't did anything to lose my trust. But given their ages and the time to come, I am sure they will.

awww, shucks man, thanks.

**blushes**

 

[Radarma]

....heh heh, we should at some point start a sister-thread to this one where we all admit our own first lie, the one where WE had to regain our parent(s) trust.

Maybe we can all walk down memory lane and have some fun with this one!

(not meant to make light of OP's sitch at all...just an idea for another angle at a very common problem/topic)