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Letter "r" sounds - speech

Posted by on Feb. 20, 2010 at 11:42 PM
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My daughter is 7 and still can't say her "r" sounds.  I've been told by some that schools won't even  do speech for kids for "r" sounds until 3rd grade but I think that is way too late! She gets frustrated because sometimes  people don't understand her. Research has shown that it is better to teach things while kids are still  young, so why do they wait so long to correct this sound?  Anyone know?


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by on Feb. 20, 2010 at 11:42 PM
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amzbrznjz
by on Feb. 20, 2010 at 11:58 PM

my son  is the same way and with other letters like w as well.  Our school district will not start speech until the age 7, bc by then they should have developed the letter sounds...I was able to get my son started early this year...he starts next month, he will not  be 7 til April!

brbrowen
by on Feb. 21, 2010 at 12:01 AM

my dd was in speech for two years of preschool and kindergarten.  She had trouble with liquid sounds the r was the last one she had trouble with it was a w sound also.  She is in the third grade now and she was done with speech in first grade she is doing fine with her sounds now.

mamacalifornia
by on Feb. 21, 2010 at 12:32 AM

Both of my children have been in speech since they were 3yrs old here in California. My dd struggles with her "r" and can't be worked with until she is 8, it is a law. Both of  my kids have done wonderful in their speech lessons.

lisa2326
by on Feb. 21, 2010 at 11:27 AM

my youngest son has speech therapy and hes 4. he has problems with the letters l, s. he done with his letter s and now we are working on the letter l. if your that worried you can try to do speech therapy your self. you can get pictures of r words.and help that way. thats what we do when he misses class. or i work with the words that he was already working on.

steelcrazy
by Emerald Member on Feb. 21, 2010 at 2:09 PM

Generally schools wait until after a child should be able to make a certain sound before they start speech therapy.  I feel that school's think that it is a waste of resources to put a child in therapy for something that he may outgrow in a few years.  They'd rather take the wait and see approach.  Not that I think that this is right, it'sjust how it works at most of the schools that I know about.  It's all about the potential money savings by waiting.

Mom of two boys ages 9 (third grade) and 6 (kindergarten)


momexperience
by on Feb. 21, 2010 at 2:21 PM

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I hate that it has be past the development point to qualify her for therapy.  3rd grade is way too late. By then kids are fully aware of what sounds normal and what doesn't and are more self-conscious. she already is!  She gets so mad when someone imitates her or if someone doesn't understand her. she doesn't hear that she is saying the "r" wrong. 

I am particuarly sensitive to this because I had a lisp and despite my parents pleas, I did not start receieving therapy until I was in 5th grade!  Then it took a long time to correct it and I had to have a couple of years of speech and tongue therapy to correct it.  My parents had asked about it in 1st and 2nd grade and the school I attended then said it was "normal'.  Then they insisted in 3rd and 4th grade that It didn't exist when it absolutely did! Then we move to a new city and a new school when I started 5th grade and the teacher noticed THE FIRST DAY!  So frustrating!   I was very aware of it and of course made fun of because I had to go to speech class. 

so many kids are pulled out these days I don't think it has the stigma it used to, but I know in 3rd grade it is going to be that much harder to correct.

so often they say kids should be retrained or taught things before a certain age because of brain development, yet they wait too long to correct something like speech.

I know there are kids in the school who need the therapy more than she does, but I don't like that kids like her with minor delays tend to just fall through the crack because there delay isn't severe enough to warrent therapy.  I can't afford speech therapy either. I doubt my insurance would cover it.

Carey2006
by on Feb. 21, 2010 at 2:48 PM

Have your doctor refer her for speech and perhaps go to an speech therapist 'out in town' and then have them refer you thru the school district. (thats what we did)

kmrtigger
by Kandice on Feb. 21, 2010 at 7:50 PM

 This seems like the best solution, since the school won't help until 3rd grade. I personally wouldn't wait for the school to do something. Talk with her doctor, see a speech specialist.

Quoting Carey2006:

Have your doctor refer her for speech and perhaps go to an speech therapist 'out in town' and then have them refer you thru the school district. (that's what we did)

 

momexperience
by on Feb. 22, 2010 at 1:21 PM

The speech teacher at her school emailed me (her teacher told her of my concerns) and said she could screen her, but typically they won't do anything until they are 8 years old. 

She gave me some tips that I will try (like having back of her tongue touch top of her mouth) so we will see.  I am not sure she will understand how to do that, but we can give it a go as it is better than nothing. So now do I have her screened, even though they probably won't do anything?  Or should I just wait?

peachwine
by on Feb. 22, 2010 at 1:40 PM

 My dd is in speech and she has been since k4. Her pre-k teacher recommended her. She's now in 1st grade and she has master almost all her sounds now. She loves going to speech class because its something the other kids don't get to do...and it gets her out of P.E sometimes. :)  I agree with u the earlier she gets in speech the better.

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