My daughter Emileigh turned 9 in December. Its been long coming I know. I remember how I acted and treated my mom when I was a teenager. (TEENAGER) not a 9 yr. old. She is the definition of attitude, smart mouth, and everything that a teenager is. How did this happen? What am supposed to do when I ask her to do something and she looks at me dead in my face and says NO! Or she pitches a fit when I wont buy her something and stomps and kicks stuff and slams doors? Sometimes I want to smack her in the face. I try to keep calm and make her understand why her behavior in unacceptable, but the whole time i'm talking to her she is rolling her eyes and looking at me like she is the exorcist or something. Is anyone else having problems like this with there daughter? I am at my wits end. I just want to pull my hair out and scream and slam doors and pitch fits like she does but...... HELP!
I have this problem with my just turned 7 year old!
She used to slam doors and kick her slidding closet doors off track...we took her doors for 3 months she had to earn them back.
I know how crazy it sounds but I know just how you feel I often have dreams where I'm just beating this little girl but she more resembles Chuckie in my dreams...
Some may say puberty is about to happen?
Did you notice any significant change happen in her life to cause these episodes? A change somewhere a long the line...
We've also went to restricting music, movies, and TV programs that are watched...
We pulled everything out of her room...she had to earn it back...She's better than she was at age 6...but we still get the eye roll and attitude every now and again so we have a chart and she get smiley's and if she does something naughty after 1 warning the smiley is removed and after missing 3 for the week her prize is gone...
I was going to say the same thing as the mom above me. Girls are reaching puberty much sooner than we did because of the hormones and other crap in our meat nowadays. Could be she is about to hit that mark. Has she had her period yet? Believe it or not I have heard of girls starting their periods at 8 and 9 years old now! My daughter is 7 and she gives me attitude sometimes, but not due to puberty. She just likes getting her way. I am more a yeller than I am a "hitter", but I have had to smack her a few times.
oh my gosh i would like to know the answer to this also.I have two boys 10 and a 9 year old boy and they all r going through this right now and man oh man i think i need to buy a hard hat for my own protection at times lol i have just been taking things away from mine when they act up
Take her doors away and stick to it! Lack of privacy she may cry about but then you tell her to straighten up and she'll earn them for good behavior!
My oldest is 14 so I have some experience. 1) Remember you are the enemy and you will be hated just accept it. 2) door can come off the hinges if they are slammed. It is really easy. 3) They may like saying no but they don't like hearing it so when they say it take note and then use it on them. For example you ask her to clean her room she says no but later wants to go to so and so's birthday party so you say no. Then tell her had she not said no to you you would not use it so frequently on her. This is usually followed by an "I hate YOU" and I hate you just means "damn you did your job" the more you hear it the more it will bounce off your back. The one thing I have learned above all else is don't let it get to you. Remain calm at all times maybe even laugh while she rolls the eyes and tell her "that looks funny, what other faces ya got" Oh that so annoys them.
Sorry I have a boy and I swear he was 16 and not 8. Drives me nuts. Sorry can't be much help.
My 9yo is the same way. I was ready to duct tape her mouth shut for real today just to get some peace. From the moment I walked in the door (she went home after school and me and the other kids went to the store) she was screaming and throwing a tantrum like a 2 year old.
She had the audacity to say that if she failed her homework for not doing it that it was my fault because I wouldn't give her a donut. Her logic fails me. Nothing is every her fault even when I catch her in the act. She blames everyone else for things that happen to her and she says we're all mean to her, especially me (because I make her do her chore). She drives me insane. I was telling her all the things she needed to pick up the other day and she starts screaming that it's not fair and she has to do everything. The only things I told her to pick up were things that belonged to her or that she got out. She never actually does her chores. She whines and cries and pitches a fit until she is grounded (and she would rather sit in her bed for 12 hours a day then clean a single thing) and then someone else ends up picking it up because it has to get done.
It's never ending and, with her, it isn't just a puberty thing. She's been like this since she was 3 and it's only gotten worse every year and now with puberty hitting it's a million times worse. Her mood swings are unimaginable. I have dreaded her as a teen since she was a toddler because she was so bad back then. We think she has ODD (oppositional defiance disorder). My friend works with teens with emotional problems and she says she sees the same things from them only magnified.
We're getting ready to move cross-country this summer and I texted my husband this afternoon wanting to know if we could just leave her here with my dad. That's how bad things were today. I am at the end of my rope.
My oldest son is 8 and he is the exact same way. I am about at my wits in with him. And my husband doesn't make it better. I am getting some ideas in this post. It feels like I am always yelling and screaming at him. I always wonder what happened to my little boy.
Sister's kids' parties and events....too much...need advice
- CrystalCD
on Mar. 17, 2010 at 2:04 PM