Poll: Would you ever hold your child back a grade?

[CafeMom Team]

Explain why or why not in the thread below.

[Angela19947]

I did,  my now 22 year old. She was not mature enough to move on to 2nd grade. So we held her back in 1st. She ended up do much better in school.

[ladyluke2007]

 Yes, I would and have.  If I feel that my child is immature for the next grade and I don't think summer school is going to help, I'd do it in a heart beat.

[kristinas8]

 I pulled my dd out of public school two years ago, because she was having so much social problems and failing. At the end of the year, we had to do standardized tests, her score was only on the 4th grade level. So, when she should have started 7th at the middle school, I made them put her in 6th. They didn't like it and were determined to promote her at some point during the year. Well, needless to say she failed 6th for the second time and even failed summer school. She'll be homeschooling this year.

[Morita-Michelle]

I held back my son in first grade because he was just not ready for second grade. Two of my boys I did not let them go to kindergarten until they were 5 there birth dates are the beginning of Nov. They are doing good in school now. My eldest one I put him in school when he was 4 almost 5 and I wish I would have not put him in school until he was 5.

[LuvingMy3Girls]

Idk. Honestly prob not. My dh was held back and it caused him social hell and when it comes up in conversation with his mom he still wishes she had not held him back. Hard to say for sure without being in that situation

[tornados4]

I would and I have.  I held my daughter back in the first grade because her teacher recommended it. Not because of her grades but because she was one of the youngest in the grade.  In hind sight, I would not have done it.  We home school now.

[nicci.80]

Our school's cut off date is October 1st, and I have a boy that "should" be going to kindergarten this year. He is 4 but turns 5 August 18th. School starts on Tuesday. This boy has some issues with maturity, is not potty trained (I am not his bio mom, he has only been in my care since April and dh and I were given guardianship about a week ago -- biologically, he's our nephew), and I am suspecting he may have a learning disability. I do not feel that he is ready for kindergarten. I will be keeping him a year, and although his younger sister is going to preschool this year, I have decided to homeschool him this year and see if between me giving him close attention, as well as getting him some help with early intervention or something, we can get him on track to start kindergarten next year.

[kameka]

We held our daughter back in kindergarten when the school was willing to promote her because we felt she would have a very hard time in 1st grade due to her lack of maturity.  It was one of the best decisions we've made.

[masastan]

Yes and I have. I wanted my oldest to be held back in the 5th grade, but the school system wouldn't do it. NOW, he is being held back in the 7th grade! He is okay with it though. He has talked to his school counselor AND his psychologist and he feels he would be better off repeating 7th grade. My youngest was unable to finish prek because we moved mid year and I couldn't get him into another place that was free. He passed kindergarten just fine, but 1st grade work proved to be too difficult for him, so we put him back into kindergarten last year. He is now fully ready to go to 1st grade this school year.

[ballyhooligan]

I think, technically, I have, though the school calls it a "late start".  I put my ODD in 4 year old Kindy as a 5 year old when she was eligible for "proper" Kindy.