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Please take a moment and help...(PIOG) **UPDATED**

Posted by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 12:35 PM
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HE'S COMING HOME!! It was on NBC news :D

 This story is about my friend's brother...we are trying to flood Good Morning America with his and his fiance's story...if you could please help out I would appreciate it ladies.

http://clipsyndicate.com/video/playlist/8178/2372038?wpid=10020

 GARDEN CITY, Kansas – A Kansas soldier currently serving overseas wants to come home to attend the funeral of the child he considers his son, but the Army says no. 

One-year-old Kaylien Gonzales suddenly fell ill Sunday.  He stopped breathing and on his way to a Wichita hospital, his heart stopped beating.  Kaylien didn’t make it.

“I was not there when he was gasping for his last breath and I should have been,” Spec. Nick Owen told KSN Southwest Kansas bureau chief, Kirsten Rossotti over the phone.

Owen is devastated he can't be in Garden City to say goodbye.  He's a specialist in the Army, currently serving in Kuwait.  While he is engaged to Kaylien's mother, Owen isn't the boy's biological father nor has he officially adopted the child, so the Army says he isn't allowed to come home.

“I just think that it's ridiculous that they won't let him come cause he's not DNA,” said Megan Gonzales, the boy’s mother.

“A father is one who’s raised a child and been in his life from day one and that is me,” said Owen.

In its 136-page policy on leaves, the Army says soldiers are allowed emergency leave for the death of an immediate family member to include parents, spouse, children, sisters, brothers, only living blood relative and a person in loco parentis, essentially a legal guardian.

The Army says it considers each leave request on a  case by case basis with the mission at hand being the most significant factor in determining whether the soldier is granted his request.

But that's not good enough for Owen who wants to be there in person to see his "son" one last time.

“I need to be there to say my goodbyes as a father and that is all I’m asking,” he said.

KSN contacted Senators Pat Roberts' and Jerry Moran's offices for their position on this matter.  Both say they're looking into the situation.

So far, funeral services for the child have not yet been set.

This story has generated a lot of discussion, so KSN wants to know what you think.

Should Army specialist Owen be granted a leave to return to Kansas for the funeral of his fiance's son?

You can take our poll on the right side of the homepage.  You can also join the discussion on our Facebook page.  There’s a quick link posted on the right side of the homepage under the poll.

by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 12:35 PM
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hholllyy426
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 12:56 PM

 so sad

Jess1231
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 1:00 PM
That's horrible they won't grant the leave :-(
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Xantho
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 1:01 PM

 Yeah...just because there wasn't a DNA connection between him and his son!

soymujer
by Mikki on Apr. 13, 2011 at 1:04 PM

Just because he didn't produce the  sperm to make the child, doesn't mean he wasn't a father to the child.  I think he should be able to come home and attend the funeral.  That is so sad.

family in the van   Mom of four


KimberlyMKasten
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 1:06 PM

He should be allowed to go to his "sons" funeral. It's just wrong to not let him go.

asdenyesmom
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 1:10 PM
This is stupid and pisses me off. He should be able to go!
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Barabell
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 5:19 PM

BUMPing the post up.

natesmom1228
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 6:36 PM

That is so crazy. I really hope he gets his leave.

Xantho
by on Apr. 14, 2011 at 10:39 AM

 He's coming home!!!

Barabell
by on Apr. 14, 2011 at 10:40 AM


Quoting Xantho:

 He's coming home!!!

woohoo

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