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Annoying 11 year old boy - Help!

Posted by on Oct. 16, 2011 at 2:38 PM
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Ok so I just joined Cafe Mom as well as this group because my 11 year old is making me crazy. Actually he just turned 11 and has been this annoying since around 8 or 9. I keep thinking... it's just a stage... he'll grow out of it. But it seems NOT to be getting any better. I have a 17 year old son and I just don't remember him being this way.

It's so hard to even describe in words his annoying traits. He still has the attention span of like 10 seconds... he thinks he knows everything...he couldn't care less about grades...he talks incessantly...he's so concrete in his thinking (not able to grasp concepts)...he forgets things within like 2 minutes... I could go on.

I know I know... you're thinking ADHD. It's possible although it would have to be w/o the hyperactivity feature because with the exception of talking, he's not hyper. He's also well liked by his teachers and other adults...he's not a behavior problem although he can have a short fuse if he gets his feelings hurt. Oh yea! His feelings! He's such a big feeler.... in all respects of the word. He's super sensitive both emotionally and tactilely.

Thoughts anyone??

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abmaddox1981
by on Oct. 16, 2011 at 2:41 PM
Here's a bump b/c I have no experience.
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MamaGlitterBug
by on Oct. 16, 2011 at 2:49 PM
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Have a developmental pediatrician rule out ADD/ADHD, Asperger's, Autism, Pdd-Nos, ect. And if it's nothing, it just could be puberty.

bamababe1975
by on Oct. 16, 2011 at 4:46 PM

 Like the previous poster said, I'd have him evaluated for ADD and such and then if it's not that, maybe try some behavioral therapy to help him cope with puberty.


bmw29
by on Oct. 16, 2011 at 4:48 PM
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He sounds like a typical opinionated man to me. :) I think you just let it get to you. My son talks a lot too. It annoys me also but that's just who he is.
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bupkie
by on Oct. 16, 2011 at 6:34 PM


Quoting MamaGlitterBug:

Have a developmental pediatrician rule out ADD/ADHD, Asperger's, Autism, Pdd-Nos, ect. And if it's nothing, it just could be puberty.

Maybe he's a typical boy, with many quirks. Maybe it's more, maybe not.  While we can't diagnose online.. we can say, "hey... well you mentioned this or that... which makes me think of this POSSIBLITY...

BUT it's like trying to diagnose the cause of an abdomen hurting... over the internet...  Indigestion?  Sour Stomach?  Excessive Hunger?  Stomach Virus?  Internal bleeding?  Did ya get punched in the tummy by a bully?  (See what I mean?)  

We don't want to alarm you... so we first say... we'd recommend that you have him evaluated by a child development specialist to rule out the conditions the Prior Poster mentioned.  

(Not sure if you are familiar with Aspergers, PDD-NOS or other Spectrum Disorders, but they can have "sensory" symptoms such as tactile impulses... stimming... etc.. )   

So, they may be things to have him evaluated for so you can rule them out... or find methods and tools to help him cope with those impulses for certain quirks...      


Bupkie.....

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MomVsBoys
by Bronze Member on Oct. 16, 2011 at 8:27 PM
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He sounds just like my youngest, who is just like my husband.  The biggest difference between them is that dh was raised in a strict religious household where the kids were seen and not heard, Our son has the freedom to express himself, and does, frequently. He drives me crazy too!  I remind myself that his Dad is a great person and all these things that drive me crazy about ds will likely stand him in good stead once he's old enough and has the maturity to know what's appropriate and when.  In the meantime I take a deep breath, tell myself I love him, remind myself of all his wonderful qualities and call Dad to see if they want to babysit for a couple hours. :)

kmrtigger
by Kandice on Oct. 16, 2011 at 8:53 PM


Quoting MamaGlitterBug:

Have a developmental pediatrician rule out ADD/ADHD, Asperger's, Autism, Pdd-Nos, ect. And if it's nothing, it just could be puberty.

I agree with this. Maybe bring your concerns up with his Pediatrician. They can then recommend the next steps to be taken as far a testing.

Have you tried different techniques to help him grasps the concepts of things? How about a reward chart for staying on task. Or maybe give him a visual to follow when it comes to his chores, etc.. Like a set schedule on the fridge. For example from 7-7:30 get ready for school(list of that), then homework from 4-5(depending on time gets home and dinner), chores from 6-7(if he has any). 

And as far as his feelings getting hurt and him acting out b/c of it, why not role play how to handle that emotion or what to do in that case.

tiffanyljg
by on Oct. 16, 2011 at 8:53 PM

please get him checked out for add or adhd. my 11 1/2 year old son is the same as yours. my son gets good grades but gets talked to everyday cause ha can not shut up and he has been like this since he started school. he can not focus very longer ether. good luck

Roo1234
by Bronze Member on Oct. 16, 2011 at 10:00 PM
Although as moms we love our kids, some times their personalities are not a good fit with ours. That doesn't mean there is anything wrong with them, just that they see and react to the world differently. Perhaps when he starts to grate on you, take a breathe and look at him with fresh eyes..Think about all the advantages his traits might give him, what things you like/admire about him becausel even if you were to get diagnosis of add it wouldn't really change anything about who he is, it would just give you a label.
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GagaNTattooS
by on Oct. 16, 2011 at 10:09 PM
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 lol omg we could have the same child but mine is only 9.. but he is the same way he talks non stop, he has the attention spand of a gnat!  and if there is something shiney he is like OOO shiney!! lol he just tlaks and talks and talks and is a little know it all and omg he hates school with a passion doesn't care about his math grade but he is amazing in math when i ask him why he fails he tells me I just didn't feel like doing it today ... HE failed an open book sciene test cause he didn't feel like gettig his book!! ughhh!!! i could scream sometimes....No i haven't had him tested for ADD ADHD or any of those other things .. NO i would't send him to a shrink if it's the start of the "wonder years' I know my kid he is a  mini ME and I know He is just my eddie being Eddie... There is Nothing wrong with him just that little brain can't shut off.. I have the same problem both of us are a little OCD as mine grows up i am sure he will start to fit into his larger then life personality and i am sure yours will too :)

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