How do you teach the difference between lying and pretending?
So last Wednesday night I got a call from a mom asking if my ex was ok because my ds told her kids his father was killed. My ds is 6. So I thanked her and apologized, then told him he could not go to tball and lost the Wii for the weekend. Later on he demonstrated to me that he does not necessarily understand the difference between lying and pretending, etc. I did not lift the punishment, and I told him that he cannot tell things to people that scare them just to hide something else (the context of the lie-another boy made him cry and he was ashamed so he lied about why he was crying). The good news--I told the teacher what was going on and he had to face his friends and admit to lying, which he was afraid to do but it turned out to be a great lesson for him (at least this time).
Anyhow, I am wondering how to talk to him about lying vs pretending without getting confused myself! I was actually sympathetic and found it difficult to explain. I have heard enough six year old boys to know that at this age, they tell some tall tales to begin with. I don't want to stifle my son's creativity, but I don't want to excuse bad behavior. And yes, I've told him the story of the boy who cried wolf many, many times.