How old was dd when you had "the talk"..

[RunningMOMof3]

 My DD is 9 and in fourth grade. She's already started getting hair "down there".. although not much, she knows about periods a little, she's very slim but I've had to buy her the little training bras to where, especially with white shirts. I bought her the American Girl Body book.. and that seemed very helpful but we have not yet had the actual talk about sex yet. We live in a good area, and she goes to a nice public school but kids still talk and I am petrified that someone will tell her before I do. Plus I am pregnant with our third child and I'm sure she is starting to put two and two together. On a side note my twin 19 year old nieces, as well as my ex husbands 19 year old sister are all pregnant. At some point I want to explain to her why it's better to wait. I had her at 19, got married and divorced within a year. Although I would not give her up for anything in the world, she will never have to opportunity to have both her parents in the same house like her siblings. My nieces and her aunt may beat the odds, but they may not. I'm not uptight, but it's my experience that wants her to know why it's better for the baby if you wait a little longer and have a little more life experiences before you start a family. Wheew! Was that enough info? I just don't want to jump the gun and say something too early too. So those of you that have older kids and have experience with this .. how and when did you do it. If you haven't had the talk yet, what's your plan of action?

Thanks!

[mama_grizz]

I'm planning on telling my DD at 8 or 9. I developed early, and I'm worried she'll do the same. I want to tell her all the scientific stuff first, and the moral stuff after. We've always had good communication, I'm hoping this helps. Also her father is super protective and since we were teenage parents he wants to let her know exactly how hard it was and how much was sacrificed. I'm expecting any day now, and even at 6 she has an idea of how this happened and what's going on. I guess it depends on the maturity level of the child, and when you think they may start puberty.

[auroragold]

We don't have "THE TALK" but have had a series of discussions about the topic since she started asking.

Where do babies come from? ANSWER

How do they come out? ANSWER

How did it get in there? ANSWER

That's the straight forward of it - no big secret - no big dreaded sit down and "TALK"

What are those things in the box in the bathroom? Sanitary Pads or Tampons - this is what they're for.

When the information is provided "on demand" and in a non-threatening casual way, there is less mystery and naughtiness about it all.

She wears deodorant? Great opening to mention the changes her body will go through.

No doubt she's seen you naked so knows she'll get pubic hair and breasts just like you....

If you don't make it A BIG DEAL - it won't be. And it'll be a heck of a lot easier on you!  ♥

[Buggy979]

We have been having " the talk" since they were sitting in the high chair at dinner... You need to talk to her now ask questions cause I bet she knows more than you think she does... Good luck

[RunningMOMof3]

Thanks everyone! Super helpful from all three replies!

[auroragold]

BUMP!