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Another school clothing ban

Posted by on Feb. 13, 2012 at 7:16 PM
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Okay - -this one has me scratching my head..... chime in here with your thoughts.


Virginia School District Wants to Ban Kids From ‘Cross-Gender Dressing’

There are plenty of schools that have banned kids from wearing certain kinds of clothing—everything from short skirts to baseball hats and even pajama pants—but one Virginia school district is considering taking things to the next level. The Suffolk school board has proposed banning children from "cross-gender dressing," and, as with many misguided efforts, they're saying it's meant to protect the affected children, not punish them.

The new rule would prohibit children in the district from wearing clothing "not in keeping with a student's gender" and that "causes a disruption and/or distracts others from the education process or poses a health or safety concern." Hmm, good luck figuring out what kind of clothes exactly are in keeping with a certain gender. As James Parrish, executive director of Equality Virginia, pointed out, "If a girl comes to school wearing jeans and a flannel shirt, is that considered cross-gender dressing?" And what about a boy in a pink shirt? Where do you draw the line?

But, of course, the bigger problem is that the district seems confused about what exactly "cross-gender dressing" is. Here's Parrish again: "They're calling it cross-dressing, but if that individual was wearing clothes that reflect their gender identity, that's not cross-dressing, that's appropriate gender dressing." Maybe the school board members should have educated themselves a little on the issues before pursuing it publicly.

The idea of a ban was raised after some male students were dressing like girls at one of the district's high schools and other students complained. It's not clear whether these boys were even being bullied, but the board members maintain that the measure is meant to protect kids from the kinds of harassment that have lead to killings and suicides in other places around the country.

Of course, those situations are awful, and it's perfectly reasonable to want to protect your children from such odious behavior, but the answer is hardly to punish potential targets of bullying by trying to make them act like someone they're not. And just because a kid who's different is wearing the same clothes as everyone else doesn't mean he or she still isn't going to be the target of cruelty. If your true aim is to protect kids from violence, wouldn't it be more sensible to go after the bullies themselves and/or put in place anti-harassment policies?

Suffolk's school board attorney Wendell Waller says it's not as bad as it sounds, "It is not a straight prohibition of anything, unless it ... forms a disruption of the education process." OK, well, who decides what constitutes a disruption? There's certainly plenty of room in there for discrimination, and that is exactly what the ACLU is contending. They're already preparing to challenge the ban on the grounds that it's "unconstitutionally vague and sexually discriminatory" should it be passed during the board's vote in March. Well, thank goodness someone's willing to step in to protect the rights of transgender kids in Suffolk. Now if they could just have ACLU lawyers on the playground to protect them from their fellow students—and any teachers who might not approve of their chosen outfit.

Posted by on Feb. 13, 2012 at 7:16 PM
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kmrtigger
by Group Mod - Kandice on Feb. 13, 2012 at 7:23 PM
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Why do they have to put labels on what kind of clothing a person decides to wear. As long as they are covered in all the right areas I see no big deal in what a boy or a girl wear.

caitslaton
by on Feb. 13, 2012 at 7:30 PM
They should concentrate more on their teaching i would think...to make sure their students were gettin a good education...i graduated in 05 and i can tell u what someone was wearing that day didnt hinder my learning and if someone did have a prob with what someone was wearin they generallu got beat up!!!
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steelcrazy
by Group Mod on Feb. 13, 2012 at 7:32 PM

eye rollingAnother example of how silly administrators can be.

JonesMama
by Member on Feb. 13, 2012 at 11:09 PM
If we had a rule against it, my 6th grade neighbor would be pissed. She has dressed like a boy since 1st grade, from head to toe, including boxers and a boyish haircut. All the kids are used to her and think nothing of it.
periwinkle163
by Bronze Member on Feb. 13, 2012 at 11:11 PM

 Here they put in a stipulation that any article of clothing that disrupts the classroom is banned.

jaytee
by Jen on Feb. 13, 2012 at 11:27 PM
That's just ridiculous! I think that as long as they are properly covered that's acceptable.

My dd happens to like boy and girl clothing. She's the proud new owner of a Tom&Jerry t-shirt that we bought in the boys department....
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coolmommy2x
by Bronze Member on Feb. 13, 2012 at 11:48 PM
Sounds like some administrators have a lot of free time.
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gingerwife
by Skye on Feb. 14, 2012 at 1:35 AM

I think it would be a better idea to just implement uniforms.

vermontmoms
by Bronze Member on Feb. 14, 2012 at 1:43 AM
Agreed.... They would be better off implementing uniforms b/c trying to determine who is cross dressing and who isn't would be next to impossible.

Quoting gingerwife:

I think it would be a better idea to just implement uniforms.

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theresaphilly
by Member on Feb. 14, 2012 at 5:13 AM

They need to just impliment uniforms .. slacks and shirts for all, not even skirts or dresses!

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