my son is 9 and in the 3ed grade he is struggling in school... he has asked me to changes his schools he is picked on by older kids. his older sister had to stick up for him last month he was being called names by a boy who was in class with her a couple of years ago him and his friend thought it was funny and one of them choked my son on the bus . my son went to the principle the next day. the boy who chocked my son got suspended for 2 days. we had a teacher's meeting and all 3 of his teachers want to hold my son back but he was held back in first grade because his teacher was more worried about my Son being adhd and wanted me to get him tested and put him on med's that I got a note almost everyday or she would call me to say he was in trouble again. I can't change his schools because I would have to drive him and don't have a car. I was thinking about homeschooling him but don't know if I should try I only have a high school diploma.
Question #1: Why do they want to hold him back?
Question #2: What is he struggling in?
Question #3: Does it come from his behavior?
Just from you post, "struggling" can mean so many things. It looks more behavior based than anything but its hard to know for sure. Other questions: How well does sit to do his homework? Does he have friends?
I would be very upset that the school allowed him to be bullied...and that does hurt a child confidence and liking school.
Does he have ADHD?
Depending on your state homeschool laws it isn't difficult there is a wide range of support to help you....it only takes dedication..
Be strong and don't give up on him or YOU!!
Blue
Question #1: Why do they want to hold him back? he went from having A&B to having D&F. He saids his teacher yells at him almost everyday.
Question #2: What is he struggling in? he is stuggling with every subject.
Question #3: Does it come from his behavior? he is a little hyper but almost every boy in my family is.
he will sit and do his homework at the kitchen table he does not ask for help but I do check it befor he goes out to play or watches tv. his homeowork takes no more than 15 min everynight and then before bed we read 30 min or more.. yes he has friends but he does not get to see most of them except for at school because we live about 5 min (by car) out of town.
I don't know if he has ADHD. I have not had him tested but his father has it and I have ADD and my grandmother believes my dad had add as a child.
Quoting blue52:
Why hold him back again?
I would be very upset that the school allowed him to be bullied...and that does hurt a child confidence and liking school.
Does he have ADHD?
Depending on your state homeschool laws it isn't difficult there is a wide range of support to help you....it only takes dedication..
Be strong and don't give up on him or YOU!!
Blue
Quoting Tigger11681:
Question #1: Why do they want to hold him back? he went from having A&B to having D&F. He saids his teacher yells at him almost everyday.
Question #2: What is he struggling in? he is stuggling with every subject.
Question #3: Does it come from his behavior? he is a little hyper but almost every boy in my family is.
he will sit and do his homework at the kitchen table he does not ask for help but I do check it befor he goes out to play or watches tv. his homeowork takes no more than 15 min everynight and then before bed we read 30 min or more.. yes he has friends but he does not get to see most of them except for at school because we live about 5 min (by car) out of town.
If he had As and Bs at some point....it shows that he is capable of doing the work. He could probably be reacting to how he is treated in class, how he is treated by his peers, etc.
I would definately go to the principle at this point and be firm. It is ok to threaten calling the police. I had to when my son was in second grade. It is not acceptable for your son to have to go to school everyday feeling like he is not getting the support he needs from his teachers. At the same time, I would also talk to his doctor to see what they say about him having ADD. It is important for you to know. That way you can get him the help that he may need and if he does not have it then you can tell those teachers to stop using it as an excuse. There could be many factors that are holding him back from his full potential. You need to dig deeper into the prblem before you agree to hold him back again. Good Luck
the few friends he has in his grade are great. If this would have been a problem at the first part of the year I would have ask them to move him but we have only have 11 weeks left of school and in this grade there is about 28 kids to a teacher and only 6 teachers and he has 3 of the 6 because they rotate classes.
Quoting M4LG5:
Quoting Tigger11681:
Question #1: Why do they want to hold him back? he went from having A&B to having D&F. He saids his teacher yells at him almost everyday.
Question #2: What is he struggling in? he is stuggling with every subject.
Question #3: Does it come from his behavior? he is a little hyper but almost every boy in my family is.
he will sit and do his homework at the kitchen table he does not ask for help but I do check it befor he goes out to play or watches tv. his homeowork takes no more than 15 min everynight and then before bed we read 30 min or more.. yes he has friends but he does not get to see most of them except for at school because we live about 5 min (by car) out of town.
If he had As and Bs at some point....it shows that he is capable of doing the work. He could probably be reacting to how he is treated in class, how he is treated by his peers, etc.
I will be calling the principle in the morning to find out what is going on...I know the principle he was the football coach back when I went to school there. I will not let them hold him back.. I was the one who held him back the first time around. If it comes down to it I will home school him or change his schools (if i have no other options )
Quoting footballmom22:I would definately go to the principle at this point and be firm. It is ok to threaten calling the police. I had to when my son was in second grade. It is not acceptable for your son to have to go to school everyday feeling like he is not getting the support he needs from his teachers. At the same time, I would also talk to his doctor to see what they say about him having ADD. It is important for you to know. That way you can get him the help that he may need and if he does not have it then you can tell those teachers to stop using it as an excuse. There could be many factors that are holding him back from his full potential. You need to dig deeper into the prblem before you agree to hold him back again. Good Luck
I would seriously consider doing something about the bullying. Is the school or teachers doing anything to stop the bullying? You could also homeschool him for just a year or two to help build his confidence and get him back on track. I am homeschooling a 2nd and 4th grader. If you can read, write, and are capable of learning then you are capable of homeschooling. If you are interested feel free to send me a message. If the school is not willing to offer any real help I would seriously consider looking for another school. There are private schools that sometimes offer aid for students. Homeschooling is not about teaching kids what you know but about teaching them how to learn. I hope things improve soon for your son. I am sorry to hear that your son is going through this.
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on Feb. 16, 2012 at 4:58 PM