Too harsh words for 7 yo's unintentional behavior?
I wanted to bring to your attention an event that has taken place in his school that is quite disturbing. I believe this matter could’ve been handled quite differently with a positive outcome, yet as it stands now, my 7 yo's son had been accused of an adult's crime in the letters that went out to parents at school.
In the midst of a “group activity” my son supposedly “grabbed” other girl's “buttocks.” I am not sure what this “group activity” was, but the truth is he apparently reached out to girl and “tapped” her, just as he does with his own siblings. This event was interpreted by teacher as “The girl was visibly upset and shaken by the incident. She was clearly uncomfortable and felt unsafe.” Taken out of the context, this sounds like a criminal deposition of a vicious sex offender. Really? Do you really think this is what 7 yo intended? A simple talk and explanation of the behavior with my son and us would have sufficed, and the misunderstanding clarified, yet a formal letter was sent out to both parents as well. I am in no way implying that grabbing another student in the buttock is by any means acceptable. But, his playful action was twisted into some sick malicious act. 7 year olds does not even understand the meaning of this at the level he is being accused of.
Now my 7 yo son is under suspension for a day and very depressed about punishment from school. I'm looking for some advise and legal suggestions, if there are anything parent can do to fight back when 7 yo is being harshly accused for his playful action.
I think many moms out there are assuming and believing words by words described in the incident as "girl was visibly shaken by the incident and felt unsafe". However, when I spoke to girl's other mom, she said her daughter was "just bit embarrassed". The point here I wanted to raise is whether teacher did the right thing by exaggerating my son's playful touch as some sort of vicious crime. It's one thing to point out inappropriate touch, it's other issue when inappropriate touch is overly exaggerated that damages kids reputation. I was just at the mall other day and my 5 yo son(not the 7 yo) was starring at erotic picture of women's private area displayed by Victoria's secrets stores which happened to be near children's play area. Half naked pictures in the mall and advertisements are allowed but child's play with hugging and tagging are not? There are too many mixed messages for children there days...
btw-lnitial letter was sent out to me and other mom. Second letter was sent out to just the second graders, not the whole school.