They're identical girls, and very close. They're together 24/7 pretty much, though they don't get separation anxiety when I take one to the store and their dad takes the other to the playground etc.
I'm just worrying, I guess. Iris is quieter than June, and I want to give them both the chance to fit in and make friends of their own without upsetting their twin bond.
Any other moms of twins who've been thru this: what did you do? How did your kids handle it?
I'm a twin and I wish my mom could have separated us in school. I went to a small Catholic school so it wasn't an option. We were very dependent on each other and very anxious about how she was doing in class. I remember in First grade trying to whisper the answers to a standardized test to her because I thought she wouldn't do well otherwise :O No idea what "cheating" was when I was 6 :P
I have twins, but they are not school age yet, but I do want them in separate classes.
My so twin boys and my friend Chantals twin boys go to different schools. They both started their kids in the same school, seperate classes but because of behavior issues they split them into seperate schools. Now each of them has their own identity and their own friends.
My twins were in pre-k together but we separated them for Kindergarten and they are now in 1st in separate classes. Really the only reason that I separated them was because I figured if I had to spend 24/7 with my sister, we'd end up hating each other, lol. HOWEVER, I have noticed huge benefits to separating them. I had always thought of Adrianne as the smart, quiet one and Sabrina as my social butterfly, comedian. At the very end of pre-k, I realized that whenever I asked a question, Adrianne would answer. Being in separate classes did a world of good for Sabrina. I had no idea how smart she was! She sometimes gets better grades but because they are separated there really is no "competition". Adrianne is being screened for gifted and I know if she gets in, Sabrina won't care because she won't have to watch her sister get special treatment. It is the best thing we could have done but some twins are really dependant on each other. Mine were always close but even their pre-K teacher was surprised at how independent they were from each other. Honestly, in the end it probably doesn't matter as much as we think it does :o)
Not only are they doing fine, they are thriving. I think when I broke the news to them, I was more worried than I needed to be. They were totally fine with it, although they had bee together through pre-school and UPK.
Having their "own" environment, and being known for themselves, rather than half of a pair has done wonders for their self esteem and building their own self worth, and sense of self.
Don't swear it momma, kids are much more resilient than we give them credit for!!! I bet your girls will surprise you! :-)
I'm a fraternal twin. My mom separated us. We made our own friends. My neighbor on the other hand also has twins and they are in my daughter's class. They too are fraternal and their personalities are very different, so they are making their own friendships with the kids in class. It is working out fine for them.
As a twin, you never lose that "wonder twin power" (I might be dating myself... a 70s superhero cartoon that featured twin superheros. They bumped their fist to activate their wonder twin power).
As a parent of a kid who has been in class with a set of twins for the past 3 years, let me tell you sometimes the other kids REALLY start to resent your kids. As a matter of fact, my son's teacher is my neighbor and I mentioned to her yesterday, as I am picking the teachers for my kids' for next year, that my son did not want to be in class with Thing 1 and Thing 2 (that's what EVERYONE calls them), but I wanted a certain teacher and the mother of the twins ALWAYS follows where I go. My neighbor commented that more than one parent has complained about twins being in the same class (my son's isn't the only one) and beginning next year they all will be separated. I am very happy about this. One is fine, but two is not.
Quoting M4LG5:
Depends on the school. Ours gave us the choice.
Quoting hollydaze1974:
the school will want them in separate classes. If you want different, you will have to push for it. the school prefers twins in different classes so there is different homework and no way for Iris to do June's hmwk. yes,yes, I know your girls would NEVER do that.....but it's always possible, mom. and that's why the school will want them in different classes
Thank you. Maybe you should talk with the school find out their policy, and if they allow for twins in the same class, then find out when they make the classroom assignments and ask your girls a couple of weeks before they do make the classes? Also maybe ask the school that if they do go to seperate classes and decide they want to be together is their an option to put them back together? I hope you can get it all figured out! :)
Quoting Kesster:Quoting wanntawn:
I have asked, but since kindergarten is quite a way off they can't really imagine it. Or I get alternating responses like "i wanna have my own class" and then "i won't go if you keep us apart" etc. *sigh* :P why can't 4yr olds make up their minds?
I'm a writer, so I work at home often, but then there's office work and I go to college part time...
I think your babies will be lucky having you home schooling them :)
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- Kesster
on Apr. 1, 2012 at 10:49 PM