My DD9 has a few issues that we are steadily working on. She has been in trouble at school a lot recently for 'goofing off' and 'not taking things seriously'. We've had trouble with this at home as well. I know my DD responds best to natural consequences, but what can they do in school? Teachers have so little they're allowed to do these days. She's been forgetting her homework at school a lot, yet she doesn't get consequences at school except maybe having to walk for 5 minutes at recess. That doesn't phase her anymore, it's been the same punishment since kinder! I told the teacher to send her home with lines or send her to the principal if she keeps acting up. I do things at home as well but DD has trouble connecting the two. I know why she's doing what she's doing and we've talked about it but it's not getting better. Any advice?
I want to thank everyone for their kind words and great advice. We have instituted a marble jar for good behavior. When she fills it up she is going to get a bug terrarium. She gets marbles for both good behavior and good attitude. If she has an especially good day she will receive a big marble at the end of the day as well. She is bringing a small notebook to school and will write down everytime the teachers correct her behavior. They must sign it at the end of the day. If the teacher writes that she had an exceptional day she will get a big marble. We've done this for two days and she's enjoying it. She said it is helping her to stop and think about her actions. I'm still not sure about what the punishments will be. We have to keep it simple though, so I'm thinking extra chores and loss of privilages. The teachers are not gung-ho about this but they haven't exactly been fountains of ideas.
on Apr. 12, 2012 at 2:24 PM