Ok, I've Had It! I Want To Ring Their Little Necks!!!
I have ALOT to say. Hope you don't mind. There are 3 girls in my dd's 3rd grade class that are making her life miserable and I'm sick and tired of it! Everyday she comes home from school and feels sad about something they say or do to her. My dd wants so much to be part of their "little clique". One day they like my dd and the next they ignore her. This confuses my dd and I can tell that her self esteem is suffering because of it. She tells me she doesn't think she's good enough because they don't like her or want to be friends with her and she feels like a "nothing". It hurts me so much to hear her say these words & to see her going through this. I've done everything I could to try to help my dd feel better about herself, to be there for her and guide her through this but nothing seems to be helping. Today after school, my daughter came home in tears, AGAIN. We talked and she said the girls were all excited-screaming & jumping up & down-because they were excited that they were all going to have a sleep-over together. My dd wasn't invited-AGAIN. My dd said she just stood there and one of the girls turned to her and said, "Oh, I'm sorry if we're rubbing it in because WE'RE having a sleep-over!" and then she turned away & continued to laugh & carry on with the other girls. My dd said she just stood there and tried not to cry. My dd's never invited to any of their b-day parties, sleep-overs, playdates, etc. My dd has known one of the girls in this group since pre-school. Why would she treat my dd this way? The other two girls' moms I've only met a couple of times and the 2nd girl's mom I did bring up my concerns with her. It seemed like she was in denial that her daughter would treat my dd this way. She said that my dd is welcome to come over and play with her dd anytime, but that has never happened-my dd has never been invited. The 3rd girl's mom I've only seen a couple of times but have never spoken to her yet. I've spoken with the teacher about my concerns with these 3 girls and she tried to help by separating the girls & rotating the girls and put one of the girls from the group and my dd together but nothing changes. The girls still "clique" together the first chance they get at recess, lunch, etc. and leave my dd out once the teacher's not looking. I really don't know what else to do. I'm starting to think...am I the problem? I'm much older than two of the moms of these girls. Could that have anything to do with it? My dd is 9 & my youngest of 4...I have a son that's about the same age as one of the moms!:) Regardless of the reason, I can't stand by and watch my dd be treated like this anymore. I'm sick of it! What would you do? Thanks so much everybody:)