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Posted by on Apr. 28, 2012 at 12:25 PM
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I guess I'm not in the norm of how I have approached my teaching to my children. My kids are 10 and 8 and 5 months. My 10 year old and 8 year old know everything they have ever wanted to know on sex and their bodies, if they had questions I answered them in proper terms and not slang. We went to library and got books if they wanted. They watched the miracle of birth on tv. My son found out early on how his body worked and I just taught him that his body was his and if wanted to touch it he needed to do it in his room, use proper hygiene after and that it was a private thing and not for others to know about or see. I've never had a problem with my children. I take the same frank approach on life topics, about homosexuality, violence on the news and whatever other questions they have. They have been the ones to correct their friends on the very wrong information thei friends were spreading and yes at 10 and 8 they talk in school. They do a lot in school and if you think otherwise ur mistaken. I've been a nurse for 16 years, I've worked in elementaries and middleschools, the things these kids are doing would baffle u. Not all kids I know, there will always be those who don't engage but as a norm this age group is curious. I wanted my children to get the proper information, I want them to know about themselves and not be talked into things bc they don't know. I've been thanked by many parents for my kids talking to theirs bc they didn't have to (sad bc it really should be what the parent does) I have never had a negative reaction til I answered a post here on CM. I have been inboxed and quoted that they found it disturbing my 8 year old could have masturbated already and many other very nasty things inboxed to me.
I feel sorry for these moms actually, first off for feeling they need to critisize me or badmouth me but for being so misinformed and I feel bad for the kids. Like I said I've been a nurse for a long time, I've asked pediatricians along the way including our own and they pride me for my take on this. My sons actions are completely normal and my daughter is unbelievably in tuneto her changing body and not scared of what's to come.
I'm sorry but I truely thought this was a place to open up to others and get feedback but I am truely finding women are using it to judge.
All I have to say is if you chose to judge me get ur facts into place before doing so.
Thanks everyone.
Brightest Blessings to you and yours....
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MomMirame
by on Apr. 28, 2012 at 1:16 PM
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I am in complete agreement, if your children are asking about certain subjects, then yes, it's time for some education.

I'm for open communication as a parent. I too would rather my son walk around informed at an early age, then misinformed and lead to all sorts of trouble. 

My son is only six and in Kindergarten, but already the things he comes home talking about, make me take a double take.  I've had questions thrown at me that I didn't expect to hear until at least middle school. So, yes, I can see the need for earlier talks. 

Don't take all the criticism to heart, you're not alone in your parenting style.

SeanandNoahsmom
by Bronze Member on Apr. 28, 2012 at 1:42 PM

I agree; I read Its Not The Stork with my kids at 7 & 6, when they began asking questions. My oldest was learning wrong things on the playground, so they had to know the truth. Ignore the criticism; those mom's kids are the ones spreading incorrect, ignorant info on the p,layground :/

la_bella_vita
by Bella on Apr. 28, 2012 at 3:07 PM

 I use books to help answer my DD's questions. Good luck! I try to be as open and honest for her age as possible!

seekingg-d
by on Apr. 28, 2012 at 3:15 PM

I am the EXACT same way with my kids, 6 and 2. I have gotten nasty looks from people because my daughter uses words like vagina and penis the same way she would say elbow. How dare we talk about genitals without using hushed tones. Oy...

maxswolfsuit
by Max on Apr. 28, 2012 at 3:17 PM

I don't think you're in the minority. I know I take the same approach. I assume everyone does. But posts on here about 10 year olds asking about my stuff I told my kid when he was 3 proves otherwise. 

maxswolfsuit
by Max on Apr. 28, 2012 at 3:18 PM

Who is badmouthing you? Is it in this group?

STKsMomma
by on Apr. 28, 2012 at 3:24 PM
I am sorry that you are having this experience with other moms on here. To me it is "disturbing" to think that an 8 yo is masterbating. Because I have kids in the 8-11 age group. But, it is "disturbing" cause I don't want to think about it being my kid kwim. However I know it is completely normal, and is something I have talked to my kids about, and the act it self at ANY AGE is not "disturbing".
But I try very hard not to get nasty with anyone who doesn't with me first.
I applaued your efforts, to make this a very easy transition for your kids and for being so up front and honest with them.
You will find some moms on here are great and others, well if you and your kids aren't EXACTLY like them then you are always in the WRONG!!! It sucks but it is how it is!
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Kris_PBG
by on Apr. 28, 2012 at 4:35 PM
Quoting MomMirame:

I am in complete agreement, if your children are asking about certain subjects, then yes, it's time for some education.

I'm for open communication as a parent. I too would rather my son walk around informed at an early age, then misinformed and lead to all sorts of trouble. 

My son is only six and in Kindergarten, but already the things he comes home talking about, make me take a double take.  I've had questions thrown at me that I didn't expect to hear until at least middle school. So, yes, I can see the need for earlier talks. 

Don't take all the criticism to heart, you're not alone in your parenting style.




I agree. Any questions my boys have is welcomed and answered honestly and factually. If there is a question, there is a need for an honest answer.
MeggieLee22
by on Apr. 28, 2012 at 6:58 PM

I try to be honest with my kids when they ask me questions...sometimes I wonder if I should bring up the subject on my own with my 8 yo...I know how kids can be they come up with crazy stuff so IDK what other kids are telling her in school.

I have tried to teach them the right words for things (for a while they were calling their vagina their 'front butts' so I had to explain to them that no it is not another butt lol) When my 4yo was a toddler she was very curious about what was 'down there' and we had to have the discussion about not putting her hands in  her pants in public.

My mom was always embarrassed to talk to us about stuff and I didn't feel like I could tell her things as I got older,  I don't want that to happen with my kids so I just tell them as straightforward as I can, even if it makes me blush!

ProudMommy51006
by on Apr. 28, 2012 at 7:25 PM
Hmmm.... I don't know where I stand on it. I think whatever works in ones family is RIGHT, May not work for everyone. O
So, those women just need to realize there is way more than 1 right way to do things, just because it doesn't work for them that doesn't make it wrong.

You have made me think, lol. My dd is almost 6. She was there when my son was born when she was almost 4, so she knows how babies are born. Some May judge me for that, but it worked for us =) she knows that girls have periods, and she has seen how I put in my tampon and remove it. This made her curious and dh walked in on her putting a tiny toy baby bottle in her vagina like a tampon. I just talked to her and told her that her vagina is her private part, her curiosity is normal. I explained that we don't put toys or things like that in our vaginas because we could get infections. As she asks questions, I try to explain them in an age appropriate way. I don't want her to be misinformed, but I also don't want to take her innocence away. I was kind of sheltered about a lot and looking back, I am glad it was that way. I know I was masturbating in middle school though... So, maybe around then I will talk to her about that. I don't know.

Now, as for my son. I am terrified. My brother was introduced to sex, masturbation, and porn very young (like 5th grade, by some older neighborhood boys). My brother became a sex addict, used to peep at me and masturbate to me in the shower, he is a porn addict, sexually assaulted a girl in highschool and became a registered sex offender at that time. He is now 26 and facing 36 years in prison because he was caught in a sex sting (yes like on dateline), he went to meet what he thought was a 14 year old girl when he really met police. So, I do not want to introduce any of that to my son earlier than needed.... He is only 2 so I will have to play it by ear. Other kids May bring it to his attention early on, but I sure hope he is bigger. It is hard being a mom.
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