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I guess I'm not in the norm of how I have approached my teaching to my children. My kids are 10 and 8 and 5 months. My 10 year old and 8 year old know everything they have ever wanted to know on sex and their bodies, if they had questions I answered them in proper terms and not slang. We went to library and got books if they wanted. They watched the miracle of birth on tv. My son found out early on how his body worked and I just taught him that his body was his and if wanted to touch it he needed to do it in his room, use proper hygiene after and that it was a private thing and not for others to know about or see. I've never had a problem with my children. I take the same frank approach on life topics, about homosexuality, violence on the news and whatever other questions they have. They have been the ones to correct their friends on the very wrong information thei friends were spreading and yes at 10 and 8 they talk in school. They do a lot in school and if you think otherwise ur mistaken. I've been a nurse for 16 years, I've worked in elementaries and middleschools, the things these kids are doing would baffle u. Not all kids I know, there will always be those who don't engage but as a norm this age group is curious. I wanted my children to get the proper information, I want them to know about themselves and not be talked into things bc they don't know. I've been thanked by many parents for my kids talking to theirs bc they didn't have to (sad bc it really should be what the parent does) I have never had a negative reaction til I answered a post here on CM. I have been inboxed and quoted that they found it disturbing my 8 year old could have masturbated already and many other very nasty things inboxed to me.
I feel sorry for these moms actually, first off for feeling they need to critisize me or badmouth me but for being so misinformed and I feel bad for the kids. Like I said I've been a nurse for a long time, I've asked pediatricians along the way including our own and they pride me for my take on this. My sons actions are completely normal and my daughter is unbelievably in tuneto her changing body and not scared of what's to come.
I'm sorry but I truely thought this was a place to open up to others and get feedback but I am truely finding women are using it to judge.
All I have to say is if you chose to judge me get ur facts into place before doing so.
Thanks everyone.
Brightest Blessings to you and yours....
by on Apr. 28, 2012 at 12:25 PM
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xo.MommyW.xo
by on Apr. 29, 2012 at 12:47 PM
I completely agree, my cousin was schizophrenic and during one of his episodes in school he pulled a girls pants off.

I do think; however, to prevent your son from getting the wrong idea, that you be very open and honest when it comes time - when he asked. Try not to make him embarassed. Best of luck


Quoting ProudMommy51006:

Yes, I absolutely agree that it is like a mental disorders. He is very sick. He is bipolar and lacks empathy for others... When he first became a registered sex offender in highschool, he was in classes and they talked about triggers, I believe this triggered his sexual addiction. I know it is very complex. However, if this isn't the case, that it is a misfire.... Do not want to introduce anything to my son to early. The whole this is so much for me to deal with. I don't want to do anything wrong. I want to protect him, as well as my daughter. I hate that I feel I have to protect my dd from her brother or the other way around, but in my world, that is the reality.



Quoting xo.MommyW.xo:

Things like that are not fully understood, however that is the age many boys discover themselves and become curious.





It is thought that the sexual deviance is a "misfire" in the brain, similar to other psychological disorders.






Quoting ProudMommy51006:

It could be, we will never know for sure... All I know was that he was never a sexual predator until this all started. He felt what it was like to masturbate and rushed to have to feeling over and over again, maybe there is compulsion issues with him, idk.

I think it messed him up because he went from innocent little boy to full on sex addict in one year, by the end of d 7th grade. We don't know for sure what went wrong. We just know when and how it started and how it escalated from there.
Quoting xo.MommyW.xo:

I honestly feel your brother had a disposition from the sexual deviancy regardless of how he was when he was introduced









Quoting ProudMommy51006:

Hmmm.... I don't know where I stand on it. I think whatever works in ones family is RIGHT, May not work for everyone. O
So, those women just need to realize there is way more than 1 right way to do things, just because it doesn't work for them that doesn't make it wrong.

You have made me think, lol. My dd is almost 6. She was there when my son was born when she was almost 4, so she knows how babies are born. Some May judge me for that, but it worked for us =) she knows that girls have periods, and she has seen how I put in my tampon and remove it. This made her curious and dh walked in on her putting a tiny toy baby bottle in her vagina like a tampon. I just talked to her and told her that her vagina is her private part, her curiosity is normal. I explained that we don't put toys or things like that in our vaginas because we could get infections. As she asks questions, I try to explain them in an age appropriate way. I don't want her to be misinformed, but I also don't want to take her innocence away. I was kind of sheltered about a lot and looking back, I am glad it was that way. I know I was masturbating in middle school though... So, maybe around then I will talk to her about that. I don't know.

Now, as for my son. I am terrified. My brother was introduced to sex, masturbation, and porn very young (like 5th grade, by some older neighborhood boys). My brother became a sex addict, used to peep at me and masturbate to me in the shower, he is a porn addict, sexually assaulted a girl in highschool and became a registered sex offender at that time. He is now 26 and facing 36 years in prison because he was caught in a sex sting (yes like on dateline), he went to meet what he thought was a 14 year old girl when he really met police. So, I do not want to introduce any of that to my son earlier than needed.... He is only 2 so I will have to play it by ear. Other kids May bring it to his attention early on, but I sure hope he is bigger. It is hard being a mom.
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chunkiemonkey
by on Apr. 29, 2012 at 1:03 PM
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I applause you. You are totally agree with you now a days kids are doing things without knowing the proper information. In my baby sister's middle school there were many 12,13, and14 year old girls pregnant. My middle sister was 13 when she got pregnant. So its important for us as parents to wake up and smell the roses our kids are never to young to have sex and the sooner we realize this the better. As for me my kids are 2 yrs and 8 months but from day one i said i would be direct with them and i would go get my daughter birth control when she needs it. So to you Mommy great job and keep up the great parenting and dont listen to bad comments!!!
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blooize376
by on Apr. 29, 2012 at 2:42 PM
Quoting mjande4:



Please don't put words into my mouth, I did not introduce masturbation to my young son, he found himself and I as a parent helped him understand it was a private thing and taught him the apprpriate place to do whatever. I in no way feel he should be embarrassed or made to feel its wrong bc its not. Every child is different and just bc ur child is at a different level does not mean its wrong. And what actually is disturbing? That he found a place on his body that feels good to touch? Its his body. And like I said I have talked to enough health care professionals and not one said it was inapprpriate, or that it was disturbing. You make it seem like the poor childs a sexual deviant....you have made ur point and we all get how u feel.
Brightest Blessings to you and yours....
mjande4
by Platinum Member on Apr. 29, 2012 at 4:49 PM
I didn't put any words into your mouth.  This is your exact quote. As I said before, I agree with some of your points, but the masterbating for years and only 8, no.
New Member on Apr. 28, 2012 at 9:18 AM
He may have heard it at school but at 7 he is quite capable of having his own feelings and curiosity, my sons 8 and has masturbated for years. Just taught him appropriate places to do and hygiene after. Its normal behavior and curiosity. Technology just makes it easier these days rather then trying to find the girlie mag under the matress days. Don't make a huge deal about it but let him know youtube is off limits, monitor tech stuff but definelty talk to him about sex and sexualitynow so he doesn't go looking for and finding the wrong answers somewhere else
Quoting blooize376:

Quoting mjande4:



Please don't put words into my mouth, I did not introduce masturbation to my young son, he found himself and I as a parent helped him understand it was a private thing and taught him the apprpriate place to do whatever. I in no way feel he should be embarrassed or made to feel its wrong bc its not. Every child is different and just bc ur child is at a different level does not mean its wrong. And what actually is disturbing? That he found a place on his body that feels good to touch? Its his body. And like I said I have talked to enough health care professionals and not one said it was inapprpriate, or that it was disturbing. You make it seem like the poor childs a sexual deviant....you have made ur point and we all get how u feel.


ProudMommy51006
by on Apr. 29, 2012 at 6:07 PM
I will thank u =)

Quoting xo.MommyW.xo:

I completely agree, my cousin was schizophrenic and during one of his episodes in school he pulled a girls pants off.



I do think; however, to prevent your son from getting the wrong idea, that you be very open and honest when it comes time - when he asked. Try not to make him embarassed. Best of luck




Quoting ProudMommy51006:

Yes, I absolutely agree that it is like a mental disorders. He is very sick. He is bipolar and lacks empathy for others... When he first became a registered sex offender in highschool, he was in classes and they talked about triggers, I believe this triggered his sexual addiction. I know it is very complex. However, if this isn't the case, that it is a misfire.... Do not want to introduce anything to my son to early. The whole this is so much for me to deal with. I don't want to do anything wrong. I want to protect him, as well as my daughter. I hate that I feel I have to protect my dd from her brother or the other way around, but in my world, that is the reality.





Quoting xo.MommyW.xo:

Things like that are not fully understood, however that is the age many boys discover themselves and become curious.







It is thought that the sexual deviance is a "misfire" in the brain, similar to other psychological disorders.








Quoting ProudMommy51006:

It could be, we will never know for sure... All I know was that he was never a sexual predator until this all started. He felt what it was like to masturbate and rushed to have to feeling over and over again, maybe there is compulsion issues with him, idk.

I think it messed him up because he went from innocent little boy to full on sex addict in one year, by the end of d 7th grade. We don't know for sure what went wrong. We just know when and how it started and how it escalated from there.
Quoting xo.MommyW.xo:

I honestly feel your brother had a disposition from the sexual deviancy regardless of how he was when he was introduced











Quoting ProudMommy51006:

Hmmm.... I don't know where I stand on it. I think whatever works in ones family is RIGHT, May not work for everyone. O
So, those women just need to realize there is way more than 1 right way to do things, just because it doesn't work for them that doesn't make it wrong.

You have made me think, lol. My dd is almost 6. She was there when my son was born when she was almost 4, so she knows how babies are born. Some May judge me for that, but it worked for us =) she knows that girls have periods, and she has seen how I put in my tampon and remove it. This made her curious and dh walked in on her putting a tiny toy baby bottle in her vagina like a tampon. I just talked to her and told her that her vagina is her private part, her curiosity is normal. I explained that we don't put toys or things like that in our vaginas because we could get infections. As she asks questions, I try to explain them in an age appropriate way. I don't want her to be misinformed, but I also don't want to take her innocence away. I was kind of sheltered about a lot and looking back, I am glad it was that way. I know I was masturbating in middle school though... So, maybe around then I will talk to her about that. I don't know.

Now, as for my son. I am terrified. My brother was introduced to sex, masturbation, and porn very young (like 5th grade, by some older neighborhood boys). My brother became a sex addict, used to peep at me and masturbate to me in the shower, he is a porn addict, sexually assaulted a girl in highschool and became a registered sex offender at that time. He is now 26 and facing 36 years in prison because he was caught in a sex sting (yes like on dateline), he went to meet what he thought was a 14 year old girl when he really met police. So, I do not want to introduce any of that to my son earlier than needed.... He is only 2 so I will have to play it by ear. Other kids May bring it to his attention early on, but I sure hope he is bigger. It is hard being a mom.
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