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Her DD bite my son...guess who she screamed at?

There is a mom at my son's school who must have blinders on. Her daughter has bite my son (both in the 1st grade) at least twice now, she has also bite another child....the moms responce is that our kids must of done something to her daughter cause her daughter is not a biter!

She HATES it when anyone tells her something her child did, to the point where she told my son (after he went to her with a bleeding scratch that her daughter inflicted) that no one would play with a tattle tale and thats why he had no friends.

I already requested that she and my son not be in the same class (they are not this year) but I just get frustrated my son asks me why miss so and so hates him...breaks my heart. She is so blond...never heard her yell at her children just everyone elses...

I dont talk to her, and she barely acknowleds me except to tell me when my son misbehaved...any advice?

by on May. 3, 2012 at 3:33 AM
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by on May. 5, 2012 at 6:52 PM

I think I know this bimbo

by on May. 5, 2012 at 7:13 PM

You need to have a conference with the school. Biting is a serious issue and it is certainly unusual for children that age. It's a behavior that needs to be stopped if it surfaces as toddlers. The human mouth has loads of nasty bacteria and a bite that breaks the skin needs medical attention to prevent/treat infection and the parents of the biter are liable whatever excuse they come up with for the biting. 

We had this problem once when my daughters were preschoolers. They had a biter in their daycare and even worse, the kid turned out to have hepatitis A. My kids had to have painful gamma globulin shots. At least that did prevent their being infected. A school cannot tolerate biting and you need to insist on them taking effective measures to prevent it. 

by on May. 5, 2012 at 8:22 PM
Quoting AnotherKim:

Do you know how to spell meant?
by on May. 5, 2012 at 9:28 PM

A big part of reading is comprehension. Shall I spell it slowly for you. If you go back and read her entire sentence, you will comprehend what she meant. Who's the dumb ass now? Bitch.

Quoting Ginnymarie33:

Quoting AnotherKim:

I'm not blonde you dumbass! She's still a moron. How do you know??

by on May. 6, 2012 at 12:05 AM

First off, WHY is the woman even speaking to your son?  Unless she's the recess aid, or is in charge of anything, she shouldn't be speaking to your son.  If she speaks to him again the way you describe, have her arrested for child abuse.  She's already altering your child's behavior with her psychological abuse.

Quoting Connorsmommy13:

What breaks my heart the most is my 7 (just turned 7) thinks that this parent hates him...also he is normally a happy child..but now he perfers to play alone because then he cant get into trouble.

He seems to be the scape goat and pisses me off...I just dont know what to do. I am younger then all of them, and they use that against me...I call them the preppy moms...not to their faces of course.

by on May. 6, 2012 at 12:16 AM

The OP did not say whether her child did anything first or not.  This could very well be someone who just likes to inflict pain.  There are reasons for a child biting, and not all of them are negative feelings and poor communication.  By first grade, this should be a non-issue and the child either has a learning deficit, or has not been taught age appropriate behavior.  Any child that bites at that age should be referred to the school psychologist, even if that means psychoanalyzing the parent.

The OP needs to document, and go to the nurse with EVERY bite, and when her son gets bit, he needs to tell the teacher and be sent to the nurse.  The child may not be a monster YET, but if her behavior is not stopped soon, she will be one.

Quoting RayOSunshine03:

If a child hits another child and a child lashes out by biting, there is a SERIOUS ISSUE at hand. You certainly aren't in a position to absolve a child who has initiated the physical conflict. There is no evidence that the OP's son has done anything to warrant an attack (although it's really naive to make the assumption that he definitely did nothing wrong) but what you are talking about is completely silly. If you find out your child got bit after throwing a punch, it is not a good time to go all self riteous on the other parent.

As another poster pointed out, biting is inappropriate at this age, but it is a sign that she's having trouble coping with her negative feelings and communicating them effectively. Shame on all of you for painting a little girl as a monster.

Quoting shelliek:

I don't tolerate biting...for ANY reason! Even if your son had hit her, no reason for the girl to bite...EVER!! My daughter bit someone once...ONCE! She never did it again when she saw how furious I was and she was punished accordingly! Some parents think their kid does no wrong. I am not one of them. I love my daughter but she does misbehave, and she gets punished accordingly! These kids that are raised to do whatever they want are going to have a rude awakening when they are grown and out in the real world..and unfortunately, it will be the parents fault if the kids grow up not taking responsibility for their actions.

by on May. 6, 2012 at 3:44 AM
First of all, I used to be a preschool teacher and that is the ONLY place that I think should be somewhat tolerant of this horrendous behavior. I also have a son in the first grade... I find it very odd that a child, especially a girl, of that age is still biting. Clearly, she is suffering from something more than immaturity and needs to be seen by a specialist. It bothers me that the principal or any other authoritative disciplinarian has not stepped in yet. If my son was being bit in the FIRST GRADE, I would be making a very big deal about it.
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by on May. 6, 2012 at 11:37 AM
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If this mom thinks that she has the right to yell at other please children and not discipline her own then maybe you should take your que from her and tell her daughter that it is wrong to bite other kids. If the mom gets confrontational with you tell her that her behavior is also unacceptable and walk away.
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by Member on May. 6, 2012 at 2:04 PM
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Talk to the teacher and/or principle. I would personally want bitch slap any person that talked to my kid the way that lady talked to your boy. Biting at that age is absolutely not okay but it sounds like a crappy mom made a crappy kid in her case. Taking no responsibility for their actions.
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by on May. 6, 2012 at 2:45 PM

Does your cell phone have video capability? If so, you just may have to set aside time to watch without being seen and record her daughter. Even if it is being mean with another child, she can at least see how her 'precious darling' behaves when mommy isn't around. I'd hate to have to deal with this brat when she becomes an obnoxious, "I can't do anything wrong", teenager. Good luck

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