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Would you ask someone to change......

Posted by on May. 8, 2012 at 11:25 AM
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Would you ask someone to change the way the dress because you don't want to explain something to your children?

Here is what brought up this question.

I am a mom of three girls that just so happened to have to have a mastectomy six years ago.  I chose not to have reconstructive surgery done due to the high risk of infection (it was an infection that caused me to have to have the surgery).  I have no problems with the way I look nor does most people around me, however I have had two different neighbors ask me not to wear tank tops outside because it has made their children ask questions as to why I only have one breast.  I refuse to buckle and change the way I dress or have reconstructive surgery done to make my neighbors happy.  So comes the question would you ask someone to change so you don't have to explain something to your children?  And I never dress inappropriately I am always covered completely so it's not like I am trying to bring notice to the fact I have had it done.

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andrea96
by on May. 8, 2012 at 11:32 AM

No. That's silly, imo.

BonitaM
by Bronze Member on May. 8, 2012 at 11:36 AM

No, I'd explain to my DD why people dress a certain way and if I didn't understand it I'd just tell them that although I don't know why they dress that way it's really none of our business and if they dressed very strangely I'd also tell DD that I'm thankful she has good fashion sense. lol  I have a friend that is bi and he used to like to dress up in skirts and stuff (not sure if he still does or not) and I always dreaded having to exxplain that to DD.....fortunately, he knew I was uncomfortable with it an didn't dress that way in front of her.

RedneckMomma3
by on May. 8, 2012 at 11:38 AM

From what the people told me they don't have a problem with the clothes themselves it's the one breast they don't want to explain.  In both cases it was moms with daughters that have asked me to wear baggier clothes so it doesn't show and they won't have to explain that sometimes people have to have it done.

CrazedMomof2
by on May. 8, 2012 at 11:43 AM
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 Never.

I would look it as a learning experience and move on. We are all different and that is okay. If we were all the same that would be boring!

Jinx-Troublex3
by Platinum Member on May. 8, 2012 at 11:43 AM
No, I wouldn't ask anyone to chane their dress for that reason. Its part of life.

I have told some of the lil tramp hos that walk through my neighborhood to cover up...rofl...it will never do any good but I feel better asking!
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Pukalani79
by Silver Member on May. 8, 2012 at 11:44 AM
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 Nope I think they're missing an opportunity to teach their kids something

wendythewriter
by on May. 8, 2012 at 11:44 AM
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For that? No. I'd do my job as a mom and explain to my sons that there are all kinds of illnesses and diseases that can lead to having to have surgery to have something removed, and sometimes that something is a breast. I'd remind them that things like that make no difference to who a person is, and be done with it.

Now, I could see if someone dressed really inappropriately (I'm talking like a mini skirt with nothing underneath), asking them not to dress that way when they come to my home. I feel I have that right, just as they have the right to refuse my request - which then gives me the right to send them on their way when they show up dressed like that in front of my sons.

In general, I think most people need to get over expecting everyone to conform to them. Aside from asking someone who's dressed very inappropriately not to come visit me at home (or to leave my home), I have no right to tell anyone how to dress. As long as they have clothes on, of course. lol

gracie0221
by Gracie on May. 8, 2012 at 11:46 AM

 nope.

melissa632
by on May. 8, 2012 at 11:47 AM
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Wow, that's some ballsy neighbors you got there. I would never ask that of you.
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chinosruca
by Gold Member on May. 8, 2012 at 11:48 AM
That is rude. I would never ask in tgis circumstance.
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