Is this the age that they start this? I'm pretty sure I know who he is getting it from and myself and his mother have discussed it.. Dh wants to punish him but I think it's a natural curiosity..
Dh said he was probably 11 before it started but kids are different nowadays.. What do you girls think?
My son is 12, and I think that's normal. He was starting to hear some boys at school talk about girls in that way, and so it peaked his curiosity too.
I don't think we would have punished our child in that circumstance. We would have talked to him about it, and explained if he continued to look up stuff like that on the internet that it could result in future punishments.
Normal curiosity, but that doesn't mean that he should be doing it. Sounds like a nice talk about respecting women and hormones, etc is in order. Punishing him will only make him try harder to hide it next time and you really want him to come to you when he has questions or is curious about something.
I don't think it's all that unusual, the biggest diff between your ds and dh would be access. 20-25 yrs ago an 8 yr old wouldn't have been able to google anything, they looked up dirty words in the dictionary and pictures in the encyclopedia (an ancient text containing information that could be used for research *heehee*). HOWEVER... I don't think that googling is appropriate for his age given what he could actually end up seeing. A talk about "boys & girls" and what is actually appropriate for his age is probably needed. My boys (6&9) go crazy if anyone says the word "boobs" or if they walk in on me in my bra, if it starts to get out of hand I generally remind them that 1) boobs are just body parts, like arms or legs, 2) Mom in a bra and panties is just like a bikini, not that I'd wear one without losing my 'mummy-tummy' :P 3) someday they'll be grown-up and have a girlfriend and they won't be giggling then. That one always shuts them down. I remind them that some things are for adults only, it's not necessarily bad, just inappropriate for kids, they'll have a turn at whatever it is when they are grown and can make their own choices. And lastly I tell them that laughing at people or staring at them for any reason is rude and disrepectful.
My ds is 9 and has no interest in girls or boobs what so ever. He thinks the word boobs is hilarious but thats about it. I think eight is a little young.. then again, I dont think it should be punished, but talked about. And parental guards put on the computer for sure.
I agree that it's normal, but his Internet should be closely monitored.
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- steffielou_who
on May. 8, 2012 at 3:15 PM