Ok last year I had decided to "make" lunches but with our income we really couldn't do it after we got married so all the kids have gotten free lunches. I made a deal with all the kids that I would only be able to come up once this year for a birthday lunch and they get to pick the food. I never steped foot in the lunch room until last month. I had over heard the kids talk about cartoons they get to watch during lunch but I didn't think it was a every day thing. They HAVE to watch the cartoon, they can not speak, when they are done they push their tray in front of them and lay down their head on the table. I swear I have seen less restrictions in Prison. At different times I have had to pick up the kids for appoitments and I usually schedule them at lunch, while picking them up I have witnessed one child beg the office to call his mom and then him demand to know where his mom was. His mom walked in a few minutes later with McD's and the child said "You better have gotten me Soda" Every single time I have been up there during lunch moms are brining McDs. I even found out one mom gets the same thing EVERYDAY and brings it to her son. When I asked my kinder child what she wanted for her b-day lunch she told me Sushi. I did let her know that her friends might make fun of her but she was demanding to get sushi. I sat there for 30 min eating sushi with my daughter and witnessed 6 moms bring McDs or Little ceasers. About 5 min into eating one of the lunch room ladies informed me that I had to be careful to wipe down the table when I left because there were children that had allergies to shellfish. I let her know that none of our sushi had shellfish (we had salmon rolls, and spicy salmon rolls) She said it didn't madder and that allowing my child to risk her health with uncooked fish was poor parenting. I've been ticked off since but I've kept it to myself. My stepsons birthday is today and he requested toasted peanut butter sandwiches with bananas (I swear its the only thing you can get that kid to eat) but PB is a high allergy food so I don't know if I should ask him if he wants chicken nugs from home (I know he would say yes if I let him)
Another issue I have is the kinders have a field trip to a local park, none of the kids are allowed to bring a sack lunch and they get happy meals with sprite. I don't allow fast food unless we are on vacation and even then I'm picky (chicken wraps, or salad) and no soft drinks only water, milk, and more water. My stepson has had huge adjustments to this because his BM allowed them to eat McDs 24/7 when they lived with her. For the last two years we have butted heads over healthy eating (grandma got P'Oed that I wouldn't allow him to have oreos after he told her on me) My rule is at least two bites of new items. He won't take one lick. I don't want them out casted b/c I don't want them to go but I feel so un-easy as a mom. I already know my daughter has picked a hamburger with apples. She will probably pick off the bread and eat the meat. It's not like they will starve but i don't think that the school is right in saying i'm not allowed to send a bag lunch, and I'm not allowed to go and meet them at the park with food. I don't think they are setting good eating examples at the school either. They have children to watch TV (on a HUGE screen) to keep them quiet, and they allow parents to bring in junk food and sit in FRONT of everyone. If the parents section was in the back it wouldn't be so bad but they are right in front of the TV screen.