She's upset but not because they won't be in the same class anymore. She's upset because Bella gets to stay in Miss Kirsten's class and she doesn't. So she's decided she doesn't like reading and is acting weird. I know there are a lot of changes going on in her life. I'm expecting a baby in September and she seems to be thrilled but she's not herself but there's so much going on and it seems like the end of kindergarten was just too much for her.
She's been picking at her lips (she's always sort of done weird stuff like give herself hickeys, bite herself and leave tooth prints but not bruising or anything, picks scabs ect.) There are so many other things though too. She's started hanging on my SO and trying to kiss him on the mouth (not tongue kisses like a regular little kid kiss but she's so admit about it that it's freaking him out) and just grabbing his hand or arm and kissing him until he makes her stop (she does this to me to a lesser extent but I'm more strict than he is and it also doesn't freak me out. I think she may like that it bothers him, she's a button pusher and really doesn't respect personal space.)
Her dad and I are split and I'm living in a house I bought this time last year with my df. Right before we moved our dog died and the November before that my grandmother, her great-grandmother died. Her dad had a massive break down when she was two, wouldn't say that he loved any of us (When I would ask he would tell me to stop asking "ridiculous questions" and if I said I thought the kids needed to hear it he's tell me I was exaggerating and he wasn't going to humor me.) He's been super bitter about the entire divorce and is extremely rude to SO to the point that SO who my dd is very close to can't come to birthday parties, plays, school functions ect. She really wanted him to come to her b-day party in May and when we talked to my ex's mom (he still lives with his parents) she freaked out bc it was her son's special day and my SO isn't family. I know the kids heard some of it bc they we listening. She's been upset ever since school ended though so maybe it's just that she's not happy about moving up into 1st grade. I just feel so worried for my little girl.
Her dad and his parents would kill me. They kind of ignor her but they also never see anything is wrong. My df would support me but if he gets involved they will be nastey about him around her... Maybe I can just do it. IDK.
Quoting aetrom:
Sounds like she has been through a lot this year. Here is a strange question. Would it be horrible to hold her back too? She might need the stability and it might help? I have no idea how that works. Lol!
I am sorry for your loss. Last year has been a stressful year for both of you. Is it possible you can have a therapist that she can talk to find out why is picking at her lips. Good luck
I have i'm just not sure where you take a kid that little and what you say when you take her their. We also don't make a lot but I contacted a couple of charity organizations in my area but they didn't take kids younger than 15 or so.
Quoting Chymerra:Sounds like she has been through a lot, poor kid =(. Have you thought about putting her in counseling? For the deaths and how her father/father's family acts?
Talk to your pediatrician or school counselor. They should be able to give you some ideas.
Quoting Maevelyn:
I have i'm just not sure where you take a kid that little and what you say when you take her their. We also don't make a lot but I contacted a couple of charity organizations in my area but they didn't take kids younger than 15 or so.
Quoting Chymerra:
Sounds like she has been through a lot, poor kid =(. Have you thought about putting her in counseling? For the deaths and how her father/father's family acts?
My DD does counseling for her ADD and anxiety. I'd ask your pediatrician if they can recommend any therapists to you. That's where we got ours and she's wonderful.
Sounds like anxiety to me, the picking, biting (my DD gives herself hickeys too sometimes...for a while I thought she was getting bruises at school until I caught her sucking on her arm one night during HW time), etc. Considering everything she's going through, everything is changing and she probably feels like she doesn't have control over anything. She may be clinging to you and SO because you are the one point of stability in her life and she's afraid she might lose that too. It's a lot to deal with in one year for a little kid, I really think talking to someone could help her transition better.
I will definately ask my pediatrician. Anxiety makes a lot of sense, I used to pull my hair out when I was a little kid and have been treated for it as an adult. It doesn't make your kid feel wierd to go to conselling? I don't want her to think that I don't think she's the most wonderful little girl in the world bc she is (to me.)
Quoting MeggieLee22:My DD does counseling for her ADD and anxiety. I'd ask your pediatrician if they can recommend any therapists to you. That's where we got ours and she's wonderful.
Sounds like anxiety to me, the picking, biting (my DD gives herself hickeys too sometimes...for a while I thought she was getting bruises at school until I caught her sucking on her arm one night during HW time), etc. Considering everything she's going through, everything is changing and she probably feels like she doesn't have control over anything. She may be clinging to you and SO because you are the one point of stability in her life and she's afraid she might lose that too. It's a lot to deal with in one year for a little kid, I really think talking to someone could help her transition better.
Protein in the lunch box?
- Maevelyn
on Jun. 14, 2012 at 11:44 PM